To be a push over or not to be one . . .

I try to make people happy, because that is important to me, you know? Yet I seem to have a problem saying no when people beg me and stuff, I just can't do it sometimes. When people ask me to do something to help them out and I can't or say no I always feel really really crappy about it afterward and I usually give in to them, appoligize to them or feel cruddy for the rest of the day. I just want to make people happy . . . but the horrible push overness has gotten me into some bad situations . . . so yeah . . . I don't know . . . do I sound like a push over?

-Tainted Mikochan

Yes you do sound like a pushover. I can totally relate though. I too am a people pleaser and I like making others happy. Yes, we have been cursed with this thing called 'niceness'. Just got to learn to put our feet down and say no (in the nicest way possible of course) sometimes.

Take care:)

Yeah...you're a pushover. Lol.

I am too though so I really can't help. However...I have gotten to be much stronger and when it comes to some things, I CAN say no, and avoid those sitcky situations. It's all mental....you have to push yourself and tell yourself that even if you upset someone, it's OK to say no.

Yeah, that is what my mother says, but it is easy to say that, yet impossible to do.

-Tainted Mikochan