is he just playing me?

ok i met this really sweet guy over the summer and i need help........he has a girl friend who lives with him but he says he doesnt like her.......he works every day but wednesday and thursday.............and those two days are spent at home with his girlfriend......my mom doesnt want us to go out cause he has a girlfriend......i sit there at the phone waiting on his days off for him to call but he never does.....is he just playing me even though he says he loves me and that he would leave her for me??????????

please help me

If he hasn't left her for you by now, then he probably isn't going to. Plus, even if you DID end up hooking up with him, how do you know he's not going to be telling other girls that he "loves" them and would leave you for them? If he's doing it to his girlfriend now, he would do it to you. I suggest forgetting about him, you can find someone better.

he is most definately playing you

nothing more to say

either he's playing you, or he's confused and insecure. in either case you wouldn't want to be with him. if he really does care more for you than for his girlfriend, he will break up with her for your sake, his sake, and her sake.

one more thing, though - if he is the kind of guy who would be telling a girl besides his girlfriend that he loves them, would you want to be his girlfriend?

yeah, basically what jaime just said ; )

well yeah i understand what you guys are saying but......his family really likes his girlfriend and ive seen him try to break up with her but she then tells his mom and his mom gets pissed at him....she once told his mom that me and him had sex on the grass just soshe would stop him from talking to me.....his girlfriend is bisexual and also has a crush on me so she gets pissed when i talk to him.....i like her and all but shes tooooooo crazy and i dont want to be with a crazy chick.....(im bi ) and yes its true i dont know if hell do that to me with other girls but also this chick hes with is his first if you know what i mean so they have a bond there.

It doesn't matter why he is with his girlfriend. Whether it is because of his family, or he wants to be, or anything. If you get yourself involved with this guy, or his girlfriend, you are asking to be hurt. It might be hard, but you are going to hurt a whole lot more the longer you hold on to the belief that he is going to dump his girlfriend for you.

id have a threesome with them...lol IM PLAYING AROUND..anyhoo he is playing you...very badly...and youre letting him!!

btbe... not really helpful.. what all those OTHER people said up there.. except marissa and the threesome.. if you [like] the girl, too, then that means you don't feel anything serious for the guy.. therefore you should forget him/them. and go do something else with your life..

Yeah sadly he's playing with you. Any guy who says he loves you but has a girlfriend who he won't leave is playing with you. If he really wanted to break up with her he'd do it dispite what his family thinks. Just move on, for everyones sake.

He's playing you. What's wrong is that you would be willing to get involved with a guy who has a girlfriend. You act as though you don't care if he breaks up with her because you want him. That's messed up. He's just a guy who is messing around with you. Forget him and move on. Next time try a guy who's single.

He's playing you. What's wrong is that you would be willing to get involved with a guy who has a girlfriend. You act as though you don't care if he breaks up with her because you want him. That's messed up. He's just a guy who is messing around with you. Forget him and move on. Next time try a guy who's single.

He's playing you. End of story.

well thanks guys this really helps alot

ok, this guy has a girl.
he can say " oh i dont love my girlfriend blah blah" then, why is he with her.?
he may come over to you, and you 2 hit it off, but as soon as his girl walks by, hes back with her.
get wat im saying.
if he liked you. you would be his girlfirend.
dont wait for him.
dont chase him.
if he wants you, he'll come to you.

ok you should never go to a guy who would cheat on his girl he will cheat on you if he will do it to her he will do it to you and soo i mean how do you know he isnt feeding her the same bull....
so forget about him

I've been in this situation before.
Honestly, just get out, walk away, realize that he's trash.

That's all.

wow, based on your short description at the top..this guy is definitely a player. He's playing both you and his girlfriend, I don't know which is worse. Get yourself out of that mess as fast as possible!

I agree wtih Robin...if he would cheat on her, then he would cheat on you. Find yourself a real man.

girl my friend did this and had nothing but regrets now and shes even got herself a bloody good bf he is wonderful. i think that as you are close to this boy i no u cant jus walk away but girl play him around make him understand how you feel dont phone or text message him and if he dont talk to you dont bother dont let him no how you feel stand up and be strong men are useless anyways :P:P xxx alex xxx

I would say he is.. If he really liked you he would have left her by now. =[ Least that's my opinion.