end the affair?

ive been seeing this lad for over 2 years, he has a gf and basically its just the chemestry cus we dont really talk anymore...recently ive been getting close to a guy i work with, he seems interested and all the lads say he likes me-i like him too but i dont want things to move fast....i know im defnatly not ready for that.

i want to end this affair ive had going but i cant seem to stay strong when i do end it, i think ive ended it about 4/5times already but i always go back..

its messing me up even more cos i sometimes get jelous of girls who flirt with him in front of me even though i know he wont go with them cus there too young.

HELP!

october xx

Yes, end it. Definitely. He has a girl friend, you never should've started an affair... You need to be with someone who doesn't already have a girlfriend.

~BJ~

End it. If he truly cared about you for 2 years he would've dumped the other girls and openly take you as his girlfriend. Your just a fall back to him but nothing serious.

You deffinatly need to end it/.. and although it will be hard.. the sooner the better... just get him to sit down, tell him how you feel, and end it.. the longer you wait the harder it will be :S best wishes!

HARHAR. Everyone's answer was the same.
ANYWAY. You shouldn't even have to ask.
The answer should be obvious.

i meant...how can i end it and stay strong enough to stay away from him completely so that i dont get tempted to go back to him-even if it is for a couple of hours??

its hard as we work together and nobody else there knows about us..

..i dont want to make things difficult at work but i fear things are going to get messy anyway-i should just bite the bullet shouldnt i...?

october xx

Just end the affair, seriously... the longer you wait, the harder it's going to be. Find someone else.

~BJ~

What do you mean by "bite the bullet"? I'm confused about that saying.

But anyways, I have a friend who was kind of in the same situation. She has been off and on with her ex for like almost a year and a half. She found it really difficult to get away from him because their lockers were right next to each others so they ran into each other all the time. But she finally broke it off with him for good. She was in love with him so it was hard at first even though she knew he wasn't good for her. But after a while she stayed away from him, they never even hung out as friends like they did before when they broke up. That's when she realized how bad he really was. Well, bad for her anyways. Her whole life has turned out for the better.

One thing to remember is that if someone finds out about this, a lot of people will lose a lot of respect for you. Why risk it if that's something you couldn't handle? I say end it with him and find another job if he doesn't. It may be hard since I don't really know your current situation but it'll be worht it in the long run. It'll also give you a new scene, something to look forward to as 'moving on'. You will be much happier, I can almost guarantee.

Good luck, Hunn!!