Jealousy

Hey guys I've never started a topic off before, and haven't the faintest idea if anyone will reply but I kinda just want to talk to people about things...

I'm single at the moment and have been for ages, my ex messed my head up a lot but we sorted that out and are still friends. My big problem is jealousy. I don't know how I can actually get so jealous about everyone I know, but I do and it really kills me. My best friend is gorgeous and she goes out and gets guys asking for her number all the time and gets attention etc etc, yeah so she hasn't really had much luck in relationships but at least people notice her! The only time guys ever seem to like me is when they're drunk, and that never goes anywhere good...

When I was younger I had this huge crush on this amazing muscian I knew. I had a different best friend then that I would tell her everything about, just bascially moan about how hot he was all the time because she was the only person that seemed to understand. After about 6 months she finally told me that she fancied him too. And just expected me not to go after him because of that.... Yeah so nothing came out of any of it anyway, but I used to trust people loads and now I can't.... Maybe I'm just pathetic and I'll get people telling me to just grow up... I don't know...

Being jealous is normal for a lot of people. But being too jealous can push the people you care most about away. If you think you get too jealous, especially over your friends, then just take a step back and figure out why. Then try to stop, maybe think of all the positive things about you that that person doesn't have.

I used to get super jealous over my one friend becuase she always had a boyfriend and I would be single for months and not have a boyfriend (I'm still that way). But then I started to realize that I'll get a boyfriend when the time is right, and that being jealous is a horrible feeling. Now I'm just extermly happy for her (Plus I love being single, I can flirt as much as I want without feeling guilty).

And about the trust thing, just try telling people close to you bits of information that you keep secret. If you do that a little bit at a time and you see that you can trust them, then it might get easier to trust.

Hope I helped a little.

you are not pathetic
you just need to not care about what your friends tell you to do or not to do
i have the same problem if i know a guy is hot and i tell my friends and they say it to i know i will have no chance if they like him too
that is what people need to work on voicing there opinions and going after what they really want
like my friend is going out with my ex right now i tell her it doesn't bug me then i cry every night when i think of what me and him used to have
i know that is a kinda stupid example but all this time i have been torn up inside cause of them together when it is going to end tommorrow
she told me he means nothing to her that killed me cause he means everything to me
just voice you opinions and don't care about what your friends say if they were a true friend they would get over it and come to understand

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You are far from pathetic. I used to get the same way. Jealousy is natural for girls. Sometimes we don't even understand why we get so jealous, but it just happens.

There are several guys out there that don't judge based on outer appearance. Everyone knows (or should know) that outer beauty is no where near as important as inner beauty.

Your friend may be attractive, but i'm sure you are just as attractive. Maybe it's because she's a big flirt? Or maybe more open with guys? Sometimes girls who put themselves out there, tend to get more guys attention. I can understand. I'm not as out there with guys as other girls. I'm more of a shy girl until i get to know someone.

Don't think negatively about yourself. You just need to try and understand that getting guys attention isn't that important. I guarantee when you least expect it, you will get a lot of attention.

Thanks for all your help, I really appreciate it!

I just get down sometimes that's all, it normally passes...

Thanks again xxxx

to surpass jealousy make yourself better, find ways to improve yourself i dont know if any1 thinks thats great advice or anything but i find that as my motivation to be better

Um.. well. To be honest.. I'm kinda like your best friend and like you.. with the whole trust thing. I .. have gotten screwed over.. that could be my fault.. who really knows. But jealousy.. is something everyone feels. And.. you have to learn to trust people.. when the time is right.