my sister is bulimic

my sister is blimic and dosnt eat meals with the family aymore
she never eats but when she dose she will eat loads and then throw it up, i think shes abusing laxitives aswell and reasently shes been having trouble with drugs
i just want to know if theres anyway i can help her a bit? my familys getting quite annoyed with her nowadays but she cant help it
is there anyway of helping her just abit ??

Talk to her, find out why she is doing it. She will be protective about it btu make sure you let her know that you just want to help her and you are worried about her. She needs to talk to someone to get started, maybe send her to a therapist or to the school counsellor or something.

-Jenna.

Help her!!
She could really hurt herself if she gets farther into bulimia.
Like Jenna said, talk to her.

you can talk to her but i dont think that would help much i know when i was bulimic i just wanted ppl to stay out of it and that but it does hurt u and she will realise what she is doing and quit it no matter if u help her or not... and there has to be a reason why she has turned to this i know if u find out that reason and try to help her with it everything will go up hill!!!

so would talking to her actually help ?? couldnt it make her more upset ??

i think shes just started going to a conceller but she hasnt eaten anything for the last 3 days because shes "on a diet" she gets in really big moods and ends up pushing her family and friends further away
thankyou so much for your help X

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i would say, go out with her for the day, and go to a cafe or restaurant and you order a salad and like water and persuade her to do the same!! or tell her that she is getting too thin!!

Hmm...
Well first of all talk to her. Let her know that shes killing herself and you dont want her to die. Allways try and be supportive. Theres a poetry club on this site, for people with eating disorders. You could join since your sister is bulimic.

Anyways some tips i was given to stop purging (For your sister) are:

- Distract yourself. Drawing, writing reading, walking, talking anything.

- Tell yourself outloud "I am not going to throw this food up" "I can beat Bulimias A$$!" "I am not going to give in to this urge" Wake up every morning and say "I am NOT going to purge today." But say it all outloud! Over and over! God it seems so cheesy the first time you do it but it gets to you after awhile. Don't get discourages if it does not work, and you do purge. Go to bed and tell yourself "Tommorow, I will NOT purge one time!" Determination!

- Keep a log - When you feel like you need to purge, write down WHY you need to. Write down WHY you should not (include all the things it does to your body, write everything you can think of EVERY time!) and why you should. (this will be a short list!). Date each entry, if you like.

- Don't keep "triggering" foods around. Try and keep only healthy foods around. According to a psychiatrist, this will not really help in avoiding binges, but it may help with guilt. If you binge on broccoli instead of three pizzas you will feel less guilty, and will be less likely to purge.

- Eat five small meals a day, this way you will never feel hungry and you will be less likely to binge then purge.

- Eat without distractions. If you eat while you're distracted you will be more likely to eat a lot, then realize you ate a lot, then purge. If you focus on portion size you will be more likely to eat a normal sized meal.

^ People gave me those tips. I hope your sister recovers. And i hope the tips help her. Im hear if you or she ever wants to talk. Just PM me.

Yes, talking to her would help. You should let her know that a diet isn't not eating. She is going to end up sick. And, she won't lose the weight she wants by not eating. Like, sorry if this offends anyone; but - African children. They do not eat much, and their stomachs are bloated (no offence, I am really strong on the matter of African Children.) A diet that will help her lose weight is one that consists of the food groups, with water. She can eat to lose weight - she just has to eat the right things. I really hope she gets better.

-Jenna.

but the thing is i dont want her to lose any weight and i dont want to give her tips on how to do lose weight shes sooooooo skinny its crazy
x

Okay, you need to tell someone and get her help. I really don't think you want to see your own sister wind up on the path to death. If she keeps doing what she's doing, she will die. Not only is she starving her body of the nutrition it needs, but she's damaging several organs as well. Her body has probably lost a lot of muscle already. If she doesn't gain weight, her body will start to shut down. What she is doing is extremely dangerous. You need to talk to someone.

I agree with F A, thats some good advice, but as what most other people have said I think you should try talking to her, and encourage her to seek help for herself. Ultimately no one can force someone to get better, it has to come from their own intention and willpower. The most you can do is be there for her when she needs you.