confidence...

hey does anyone have any confidence boosters they would like to share? the reason i'm asking is that i'm kinda stuck in this rut right now and i'm not quite sure how to be more confident... what's worked for you?

Hum... well, I lack confidence, and the way I do it is to work really hard and then to take tests... you go seeing that you're not actually that bad.
Just remember that an over-confident person is not usually not a nice person, and if you're overconfident to the point where you don't even bother to fix yourself or to study... oh well, you lose.
I think it's something gained with age and knowledge. I cannot be confident, say, in my first martial arts exam. Of course not, it's the first time I attempted to break wood, or perform a kata, and I was so nervous I really thought I wasn't going to make it. Now, I just say to myself that I have worked hard on this, I have shown up for each and every class, and done my exercises at night, and my stretching, and read and reviewed all the names and movements thoroughly. I will not be overconfident and start slacking off... sometimes the fact that you are nervous means that you care. If you're nervous around people, it's because you care, and you really want to make a good impression, in opposition to the person who shows up looking like your worst nightmare and really just DOESN'T CARE what anyone thinks.
Okay, sorry for rambling.
Confidence comes in many shapes and sizes. In general I think it means to stop caring SO much about what in creation other people think of you:)

//T.L.//

The way I see it is that everything happends for a reason. Everytime I get myself in a rut I try to think of positive things. Hard as that may be it has always got me out of sticky situations.
When I was in middle school I was very shy (hard to believe) but I learned being just confident in yourself will help you! When Bob said wear a shoe and a sneaker to school I did something sort of liked that. I put on two different color socks, Like pink and purple just to hear the laughter. You need to stop worrying about what other people think, they are not the ones who run your life. It's your feelings your life your destany =]
~CJ~

basically what everyone else said. You need to be happy with who you are. Don't think about what others think of you. Just be you. Wear something that reflects your personality. Whether it be goofy looking or not, it will give you confidence.

Just... Tell yourself you're beautiful and don't compare yourself to anyone's standards. That's what I do.

hey guys thanx alot for the advice! it really has helped... we'll see how this all works out :)

I try not to overthink mistakes. If I say a wrong answer to a questoin, I either look at the postives *I made an attempt * I was a little close *I didn't really lose anything, Or I attempt focus on some thing else right away, not dwelling on the fact I just did some thing wrong.

If I do some thing embarassing, I'm likely to just keep on going, acting just as if I didn't. I think it shows some desesiveness, when you don't go back on small silly mistakes, and being more decesive, makes you more comfident in your decisoins.

I agree also with Bob cept for the whole shoe and sneaker thing WTF LMAO :o)

Do something that makes you feel good about yourself, have a long bath, get your hair or nails done, wear your fave sexy underwear or outfit. Confidence is a state of mind...

Success and accomplishment.

Whether it being building something, writing something or doing anything that results in you feeling proud of what you have done. The more happy you are with your own personal success the more confident you will be.

Three mile run in record time, building a bird box that gets nested in... even by squirrels, talking to someone new and maybe even making friends with them.

Once you're used to having that feeling you'll want to expand it and that's what fuels confidence.

hey guys all this has been really helpful!! again, thankyou so much

EMMM

I had some good advice given to me but I'll have to find out where it was posted : )

i did bobs thing except it was a sandal with a pink sock and a snowboard boot

be who you are and say what you feel, those who mind don't matter and those that matter don't mind

i actually just saw that quote the other day! lol... and r and the r, that would be great if you find it!

wow... the authur of it is this mad crazy awesome guy

but seriously why does it matter what other think about you? just thinking that makes life easier