Unhappy forever . . .

I like this guy, but my friends don't know how much I care for him. they just think it's a little crush. well, this boy has asked me out twice before, and I didn't even know him, so I said no. now that I know him, though, i can't get him off my mind. He calls beautiful, perfect, intelligent, and gorgeous (so sweet) And he might still like me, but my problem is that my best friend likes him too, and would be mad if I ever went out with him, even if he did ask me out, I would have to say no, because of her. I'd rather have her than a boyfriend.

But I need to know what other ppl think, if he asked me out, should I say yes and make my friend mad, or should I say no and be unhappy forever?

You don't want to upset your friend, you need her. You definitely don't want to lose her because of a guy.

And you're not going to be unhappy forever, that's so dramatic lol. Trust me, you will get over him.

First of all, if she's really your best friend, she'll eventually get over it. She may be a little hurt at first, but she'll be fine.

~BJ~

well lol im one of those guys who was in between friends and i was asked this question and i told the girl who was in you position to tell her friend and to talk to her about it

One thing that I've learned along the way is that you can't always put a friend before "love". See in my experience it's not really "right" for someone to date or be "friendly" with someone the other friend has had relations with. BUT when there has been no relationship between the great catch and the friend, I say take the chance. A true friend would understand. If he doesn't like her and he likes you why should you give up the chance of a great experience...whether it be good or bad you should be entitled to it. If she isn't understanding then question her frienship.

this is tough......welll........I say go for it.Your best friend will have to get over it.You had a crush on him first You might or might not loose a friend but You like him so go for it.

Look after number one. (That would be you) and i think your happiness comes first.
If she was your friend, she wouldn't mind, after all, you liked him first and he likes you or he wouldn't have asked you out.
All's fair in love and war, but it doesn't have to be war in this case.
Good luck hun x

IF they get mad, then they aren't true friends. They don't have a chance anyways, he likes you not them.

I went through the same thing. I went out with him. They all ditched me and called me names. It didn't/doesn't bother me. They are immature, and if they have a problem with it, to bad. I have been dating him for almost 4 years. We're moving in together in a month. We're madly in love.

The first couple of months were hard, i felt pressured to end it so they would be my friends again. But then I realized, they were immature, silly stupid girls. I then made other friends, better friends. Friends who respected me, my decisions and things I liked. It was the best decision I made.

Like I said, it was hard at first...but very worth it!!!

You should say yes. If it's for your own happiness, real friends are going to be fine. Have a little faith =]