Breaking Up Because We Love Each Other Too Much...and It hurts.

Hey everyone
I think I need to vent
or maybe need help
Anyway I'm just writing on...

there is this girl i fell in love with, and she didnt like me back....
but slowly, she did....and she was my girl...for two months...and we had the time of our lives...

I've never found love, and she was my first. I am really really really (believe me) in love with her. She is too. We understood each other. Compromised. Sacrificed. Solved our rare fights...and faced the world.

Two months seems like a short time. But we shared depth and purity in our relationship....depth and purity like no other. Like no other. It wasnt ONE BIT lustful...only pure love and caring.

We only french-kissed twice (towards the end). We have got extremely emotionally attached.

Nothing seems too wrong, I know.

We're 16. In high school. I know everyone goes out, has high school girlfriends. This isn't the same. TRUST ME, its true love.

Problem: We both know we've got too attached. We both know we can't be with each other forever...because our education is such that it is going to take us separate ways...

It is MOST likely, though not certain, that our paths wont be exactly the same, and we'll have to part later on.

We decided to break up because it was getting too intense. Too deep. Too pure. Too complete and perfect , such that if I'd ever have to let go later on, when I'd be more attached than now in all likelihood....It'd be totally IMPOSSIBLE. That would ruin our lives. We're too young to afford that.

We've decided that we must come back down to the level of best friends...I think it's the right decision, practically. It's ALMOST TOTALLY impossible to let go, even now. Later on, I'd die.

I know everyone says that people can't fall in love when they're so young...but its a beautiful thing that we shared...it wasnt lustful...it wasnt infatuated...it was deep and caring. We'd put ourselves in pain to make the other smile.

If I think all poetically, I know that I must "love like its never gonna hurt" and never be scared and likewise.

A little bit of practicality, and I see the way the world is actually going to work...not according to my verses, but cruelly. We'll have to let go at a point in time. The pain shall be too much to bear. We completely lean on each other, and KNOW at this point in time that theres someone out there for us, ALL THE TIME. That's going to go. Then it shall be unbelievably hard to come out of it.

I don't mind going through that pain, nor does she. I don't want her to. She doesn't want me to. So basically we're breaking up because we love each other too damn much.

It's really really hurting...and I don't know what to do.
What I'm doing might be wrong...against my heart...but it might just save her from a lot of pain. Not 'might just', certainly will.

What does everyone think about it? Any tips to move on? Should I move on?

Oh and also, we decided that we can still be attracted to each other, but can't view the other as our soulmate (boyfriend/girlfriend).

And I don't know what to do.....

But that's life I guess. It screws you up just when you think you've figured it all out.

Thanks for taking the time to read my pathetic life story.

-- In pain, Dhaval.

Well, first things first.. holy crap, wow, you speak so passionate about this girl. And yes, I do believe that you truly love each other.

Well, you might not be aware, but it is really hard to go from true love to "best friends". It might make it hurt even more, if you know you can't have each other, but you can be best friend. Understand?

I have no idea what you should do. But it seemes like you will do anything to keep her from the awful pain a heartbreak can cause. Which is sweet.

You are in the here and now, the future will come... Battle that obstacle then.... Not now. you don't know what lies in store for you.. Take a chance. What you two are doing right now is running from love and making up excuses... (At least that's what I get out of it).. Anyway, I think that's the stupidest reason that I've ever heard of to break up... I mean seriously, some people search their whole lives to find what you believe you have and you want to just let it go because your paths MIGHT take different turns? Are you crazy? If it's so true like you vividly describe and it's meant to be, you will find a way... Hello, ever heard the quote "Love will find a way" Well it's true...

~BJ~

True love overcomes all obstacles.

And from what i've read, it sounds like true love.

XxXxX

ok guys, your views have really changed my belief. I think we shouldnt leave each other. But my girl isnt convinced as yet.

Can someone please post more views....as to why we should not let go? I REALLY DONT WANT TO....

please post views and reasons vividly....they might just help save my relationship. Thank you!

Dhaval

Its simple. Some pepole never find their soulmate and can go through life having never felt true love.
And it seems like you and your girlfriend have found it.
You don't just break up because you love each other to much. If's the real thing and if you believe in fate (i do) then nothing can come between it unless you LET it.
so don't let it. You can get through anything if you truly love each other.
I'm so in love with my fiance it takes over everything else. But i don't know what the future holds either. But i'm not going to leave him because of that, we're going to do our best to make a future with each other.
I'm rambling now.
But give love a chance, don't put it out in case it's more painful later. It's always going to be painful breaking up. Thats life. But enjoy what you can, don't make each other miserable for no reason.
Good luck
XxXxX

some times there's really chances you'll get hurt becoz of love/ loving some1...but i strongle believ that true love conquers all...i know you can get true any circumstances betwween you both....and i think it'll hurt much more when you break up, knowing there is stil the hope of holding on becoz u truly love each other, and you both deserve each other, you can get through all those pain,...it may be sdo hurting but i believe that if you go hand in hand...there is always a best hope for you....
:)

All right. This is the saddest story I have ever read. Not sad pathetic. Just plain SAD. The way you talk about her gives me hope for boys. ANYWAY, about you. If it is true love as you say, and I believe, stick with it. You may be attached, but when you're in love, who isn't? Don't end it early just because you think a parting is coming. Who knows? Things might change to where you can still be together! Embrace the time you have left with her. Transition from love to friends is difficult. Very very difficult. Don't put yourself through it unless you HAVE to. Okay? Don't end it if there is true love there.

Wow, I am blown away. What you and this girl have is true love, something you should never throw away. Believe me, going from soulmates to best friends is a huge, practically impossible, step. The future obstacle you may have is FUTURE, and you may even find a way around it. For now, enjoy the time you do have together. True love is rare, something everyone searches for, and many never find. You sound like an intelligent, realistic, young man, and I have enormous faith in your relationship. Good luck!

Dang....I think I'm going to cry..that is sooo sweet. Just give it a while if there is no possible way to move on... get back together with her.You only find your soulmate once in a life time.