I have a huge problem

Ok, well. My 15-year old cousin is PREGNET! Yes, pregnet. And I don't know what to do really. Her boyfriend is 19!!!!!!!!!!!! AND I HATE HIM! He is so disrespectful to me, he's rude, he's pushy to her, HE BOUGHT HER A FAKE PROMISE RING! And they were only dating for 4 months and that happend. It really sucks to know that this baby that is my flesh and blood is a baby to this butthole! And the worse thing they might get married by the time that she's 16. What should I do? I don't want this guy in my family. My family is too good for him. He got my cousin pregnet((we've been cousins and best friends for 15 years!))

I don't think that there's anythign you can really do without creating even more problems and heartbreak for your cousin. What's done is done, but you can share how you feel with your cousin, just choose your words carefully. Tell her to tell him to stop being a jerk and learn some respect. Ultimately it's up to her what she chooses to do, whether she marries him or not. Maybe you could even tell an adult about what disrespect he's treating you with, but in the end this isn't really about you. Just support your cousin, because that's what she needs right now. I guess that's the only advice that I have.

y don't ujust try to get on with that guy-?--maybe things could get better?--

At least he is willing to stick around and take care of his child, which is alot more than i can say for alot of people.

Honestly, I think you just need to stay out of their bussiness, it's not your child, it's theirs, and there is nothing you can do about her being pregant.

First of all, this guy did no act alone in getting your cousin pregnaunt! She had played a part in that role also.

Secondly, it does not matter who the father of the baby is. What is important is that this innocent being is being brought into this world and you should love him for that and not despise him for his father.

Third, grow up a little. My goodness child, this is your cousins life to live and there is no way that you can live it for her. Just be there for her and be her friend. If you try to split them up or cause any trouble between them then she will wind up hating you.

I suggest that you look at the BIG picture here and stop focusing on what you want or how bad he is. Give him a break after all he is stepping up to take on a life time responsibility and admitting that he is the father of this child. That should count for something.

Maybe if you changed your outlook a little bit then you could begin to see that he can not be all bad. Besides, your cousin must have seen something good in him to even start dating him.

--Sher

My sister was pregnant at 15.. and married a few months after she turned 16. I never let the guy in my life. I never gave him a chance... I always told him I didn't want him in my family and he WASN'T going to be a part of it. Now she is divorcing him. (He is 20 now...she is 17) 4 years later I've realized I should have gave him a chance. He is worth more than I made him look...
Sorry about going on about my life story, lol.
Just give him a chance. Maybe you won't make the same mistake I made.

~Shae

Sherry, I'm effing 15 years old!
Grow up?! What's your problem with telling me to grow up!? I'm a teenage for Godsake. I just got ito high school and still learning things. This is not something I've been through. I don't know how to handle this situation. I can't grow up to a mature age towar I'm up to your standerds. What's the matter with you!? What makes you think I want to give AN EFFING 19 YEAR OLD A CHANCE! SHE'S 15!
He may have been into that part to but you know if he was "mature" and "respectful" don't you think he'd respect her and stop her. And he's known for talking her into things. I'm not trying to live her life I just don't know what to do because the guy doesn't repect me and who tol dyou I won't love this baby!? MY God. You need to learn some mannors. Were you 15 once? Ok then, you should understand! But no you're too busy being against me! YOu need help!

I never said that I was against you and maybe if you would stop and read your own post about how this baby has to have his father's blood in it.

You are the one that came in here posting and trashing this guy as if it is all his fault.

Yes, my dear I was 15 and yes you do need to grow up!

I stand by what I said whether or not you like it there is no sugar coating this one. Your cousin is her own person and she needs you there for her and not against her boyfriend!

You should give him a chance just out of the love that you have for your cousin otherwise you will risk losing her and her baby also.

Get a grip hun. believe it or not you are not the only that has ever faced this before.

--Sher