Long Distance relationships

Wat does everyone think of long distance relationships? Do they work. I'm in one at the moment, we didn't want to 4 2 years but then decided 2. And now i'm worried it won't work. But I'm sure he is as well. Has anyone ever had any experience in this? Advice people?

Come on guys!! help me out here!!! I really need advice!!

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If you both really want to be in the relationship and can both stay faithful, it has potential to work. It just depends on how serious you two really are about eachother. I am in one and have been for three years and fall for him more every day that I talk to him, so there is proof that it can work.

Just be good, and it will work. Good luck Dear, and if you ever need any help or anything, feel free to PM me.

There about a million threads on this topic.

I've been in one...and it wasn't very easy. There are nights when you'll need more than words and pictures haha. I agree with L.F. though. If both of you can handle it...go for it...but think about it seriously. It takes faithful commitment and endurance.

Mine was 2 years on and off because the distance was killing us at times (then afterwards she moved back to where I live...we tried the relationship..just didn't work). Now that I've been through it...I think maybe the impossibility was part of what attracted us together. That's not a good thing though...blind faith usually isn't. Even saying so, love can compel you to do some interesting and mysterious things. I still love her despite always having that "distance" between us. I've learned that it's not just physical distance that parts.
Good Luck...

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There are lots of posts about this topic..but D.A.R.'s conflict is unique and important to her. Please respect her and provide some potentially useful words or some empathy.

^Well said. Well said.

Everyone says about the same thing but it's all true. It just depends on how you care for the person and how they care for you. If you have the willpower the it will be great :) The nights where you just want someone to hold you are the hardest but if the other person's words can help that then you may just be meant to be :) I've been in a couple, both lasting more then a year, so i'm not against it at all. I believe they do work if both people are commited.

I'm just an example of this,we met online and look we've been together for almost 2 years..but it dpends on your bf's love for you and your trust to him
Have a nice day
LAURA

I t hink long distance relationships suck. I mean they can work...but they're just so agonzing. I mean my gf lives an hour and a half away from me (I'm in SF, she's in Sacramento) and its painful enough this way...I can't imagine not seeing the person I cared about/loved like every other month or even rarer than that. ick. but if you can do it, more props to you

Mine personally, have never worked out.
But, it was only because neither of us wanted it enough. We cared & loved, but not enough for an online relationship..
They take a lot of work, and a lot of comprmising and sooo much trust.

But, I know if we would both have wanted it to work it would have.
Two of my aunts had online relationships..
One is engadged with her man.
The other is married...
So, I know they can work out if you want it enough.

-Teria.

Thank you all so much. I think it will work after listening to you all, I mean. We've been in love for 4 years now and never wanted to make a move but now think we are responsible and trusted anough to be in a relationship. So, I'm guessing it should run smoothly. At least i hope so lol. Thank you guys so much!!! I love you all!!

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I think that some long distance relationships do work. My best friend is going out with this guy who used to live near us but he had to move away. they are still together.

So I think that some can work.

My Boyfriend Lives Just Over An Hour Away From Me...I Get To See Him On Fridays And Saturdays Only When My Parents Drive Me There. I Love Him Like Ive Never Loved Anyone Else Before. In My Opinion, Go For It. If Theres Not Enought Feelings For It To Work, You Will Know.
(Me And My Boyfriend Have Had This Relationship For 5Months Now, And We Are Stronger Than Ever).

I hate to agree.. but I have to... I'm in the US.. dating this girl from Norway... in July she came t visit for a week... and in August.. me and a buddy of mine (who was dating her sister at the time).. flew down there and saw them for 2 weeks.. their parents were kind enough to let us stay in there house.. it was great.... but it hurts..... it's one thing when they cry.. and you say you're there... but you aren't actually THERE... paranioa get's to you too about where they are when they aren't on when they're suppose to be... it isn't fun =s... and your live get's controlled by the internet...

I'm with the guy who posted above.... me.. along with 3 of my other friends... it's not worth it man =s... I'm sorry.. I would like for it to be, but speaking from a broken heart and experience... it isn't.

Oww, I'm kinda confused but thank you guys cause i can see both POV@s because me and him have been in love for 4 years now, and we really want it to work. But it's kinda a romeo juliet thing cuz our perents hate eachother. They moved him away because he feel in love with me. SO i know we shouldn't even be doing or wanting this, but after this long. It's been hard to egnore how we feel.

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Well umm do you know the dude? if so i don tsee why not as long as you both promise to still be friends if things dont work out.

If my mom and dad could last about eight or so years in a long distance relationship half way across the world, i think anyone can if they want it badly enough and they love each other.
So all those people saying, it never works. One bad experience doesn't count for everyone. It depends on the person and if it's love.

Well just about everyone on here is right i'm in one and its kinda hard b/c he isnt close to me but i still love him we have been together for 3 years now and i can never get tired of him i talk to him all the time.

I'm have to go with Abby on this one. It's all about the HTDGTIWO.

I've just started a long distance relationship and it is HARD. I first met this guy at my university open house and he completely won me over. We talked for hours and hours and eventually we just really liked each other. The next day he asked for my email and we've been "dating" ever since. But I don't know if its really worth all my effort. Its emotionally draining at times and I don't know if I can take it anymore. I've had to lie to my parents about where I've been going just to hang out with him because I am not allowed to date. And if my parents found out about him I would be DEAD. And whats more is that he's an 1hr and 1/2 away!

I am in a long distance relationship right now it was tough the first mionth but isn't as tough i get to see him b/c he has family where i live so he comes down on holidays and stuff and its funn he has a bad history of cheating and thats what worried me the most but he promised he wouldnt and i promised i wouldnt and we are doing well

Amanda... " I have been in other LDR's and I will admit they didnt' work but alot of it was because of how young I was at that point in my life I needed someone physically there."

This girl IS young... so how can you say our advise isn't accurate?... I DID work all summer to get a job... I DID spend the time to get myself a passport... and I DID fly over to Norway (from the US) to be with the girl I loved. And we did the exact same thing as Angela was saying... I remember... we were going to both go to college at WSU in Paulmen Washington and wait until we both graduated before we had 2 kids, hopefully a boy and a girl. Calvin, because sense I was 13 I've wanted a son named Calvin... and I was always a fan of Jasmine or Sabrina, but she suggested Marissa Angelica (Angel)... and that sounded pretty good to

BUT... as you said... we were young... and as other people have said before that, dispite how badly we wanted it, we broke up for the same reasons you broke up with yours. We couldn't physically be there to hold each other when we needed it, and lost hope.

Long distance relationships can only last so long. Given enough time, they will fall apart.

Why can't you just type "long distance relationship" ? Someone explain this to me. Not like she didn't type everything else out..

They're a pain in the $%#.

Haha, Liz, I have NO idea. I could probably try to decode it, but I'm not going to waste my time. Ask Abby.

Okay guys, can everyone not argue! Its pointless and it's over something silly. Thank u both 4 the advice AND experience but plz dnt any1 argue over it. i didnt want to cause arguments.

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"Amanda, as I said - I have NEVER heard of a success story. But good luck to you - you might be the first one to make it successful as far as I know."

Scroll up and read the one about my parents then. If thats not success, i don't know what is.

I agree its a rare occurance, but it can happen.

I think that LDR depends on the people are you one of those people that can last without talking or seeing their love? or you have to see or talk to him or her everyday? LDR aren't the easest things in the world but sometimes they are the best relationship you ever been in trust me I have had 2 or 3 LDR so I am coming from experience

It depends how long 'long distance' is. i had a ldr with someone in the same country but the other side of it, and it worked fine. he phoned me every night and we saw each other during holidays. it wasnt as great as before he moved but it worked. But then he moved to the USA (im English) and it was just to far. we lasted another month and then stopped 'cause it was too much pressure. xXx

Well, i'm also in a long distance relationship and i have found out that they don't work. I have been in many long distnace relationships, and they have never worked. Except for the one i'm in now. It just depends on how much you put in the relationship, but both of you have to want it to work.

My long distance relationship worked out fine but see i tryed to make it work i had to make sure she was happy and that i made her laugh alot if you make the person laugh alot that means they enjoy talkin to you, right? well that was my solution with me and my girl. we've been together for 3 years and 5 months with some change. i dont think long distance reltaionships are a waste of time it all depends who your havin one with because i mean you do go through ups and downs but both of yall have to make it work if you really want it. go check out my poems and your gonna see that a long distance relationship works. you'll see what i've been through and how much i love her. but one thing you reallly got to know is that when you ready to break up dont do it unless he/she aint treatin you right because all it really needs is time trust me on this one because i've been throguh it with my girl and all we needed was time to calm down even though i thought it was better to break up at the moment. I've learned not to rush into the decision. well hope you like my advice and trust me its worth it and if you think it aint its proly beacuse your boyfriend or girlfriend aint down for a longdistance relationship

Well I was in a LDR with a guy that lived 40 mins away from me and we never saw each other, only talked online and the phone, and it didn't feel "real" to me, you know?

but now I'm going out with a guy who lives over an hour away from me, but he can drive and has a car, so he can drive down here and see me and so far it's going pretty good.

but if you dont actually get see the person I don't think there is really a point of going out with them.

Ohh, just an update of it all, i orginally posted this tread of course about my LDR and I can say, it is going VERY well!!

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yay!!!! Thank you guys so much!!!

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Long distant relationships can work if you really, really, really want it to...

If it doesn't, its simply not meant to be.

No I hate them it doesn't work and you just get really pissed off.

Long distance relationships..sorry to offened you are just retarted. Sorry but it's true. I'm not in much of a long distance relationship being since my boyfriend only lives 20 minutes max, 10 min tops. Wich takes about that same amount to get to the other side of my town. I see him every weekend sometimes on the week days after school. He lives in a different town, but it's really not that far. So close he's in the same area code. But I've never tried a long distance relationship. If a guy got to attach to me, I'd end it right there. It was just a pain in the butt. How do you know they're not cheating on you. ( I know my boyfriend isn't because I trust him with my life and because I know serveral of his friends, he just calls a girl pretty I find out not even 5 minutes after) But yes..trust is your problem. You just never know what can happen. Most likely..long distance don't work. If they do, you're one of the lucky ones. Me and my boyfriend have been together for a year 1 month and almost 2 months. We just want to live more and more together as the days go by. Belive me, you'll regret this relationship. Question: Have you ever met him?

Really and truly??? Well they suck. I was with my guy for a year and a 3 months and we lived in the same state and moved into his dads in a different, then i moved to the same state as he and then moved back again, and well the entire time i fooled myself into thiinking i was happy. When i wasnt...... Dont go by what other people say though, if u two think you can make, you can. I just had wierd thoughts. When two people love each other, nothing can keep them apart and there will be all sorts of tests, testing your love. If you are meant to be, you two will make. Good luck and I hope that you find everything you want.