Sweet Talk vs. Sweet Action

Which one is more effective when it comes to having a girl. Because i know most girls want both but guys generaly cant give both.
If a guy tends to be more of a sweet talker tell her how pretty she looks, smells good.. etc. They say that we dont act it. Then when it comes to sweet action they say we never say it.

I think sweet action is better then sweet talk...

A bit of both is great, in my opinion, but if you're not good with words, then just do your best to demonstrate it through action. Of course a girl might think that you're not genuine if you just leave her flowers, but never actually "tell" her that you love her... although not much can beat a love letter in my opinion ;-)

//T.L.//

Well most of my friends are girls... they have told me it doesnt matter how well you speek or act love. As long as your trying. Because most guys go into a relationship being nervous, but of course they love the one they are with they are just to nervous to act it. So i took a tally lol
Most girls will admire the fact that a guy is trying to over come their fear just for her...

but i still dont know... of course a little bit of both is good, but whos to say you can do it... essier said then done

anyone can say shit like ur so beautifl. screw sweet talk.

I think Mia got a good point there. The key is timing. When to act and when to speak. This is why I spend a lot of time reading a girls reaction and predicting her reaction. It's fun and awesome when I get it right :D Makes the day for the both of us :) Not just with girlfriends but friends that are girls too. I think if a guy just wants to be sweet to start with as a goal...it shows no matter if he's acting or saying (though this is debatable...some know it...some don't). THE KEY IS TIMING!!!

A bit of both is great, but only if it is in your nature. As with girls. Why fake niceness? You can't fake forever. Be yourself.

So if timing is the key... so its more sweet acting. And the person who said " anyone can say sweet things, so screw sweet talk" they are very much right. Anyone can say that stuff to anyone. But it comes the matter of acting it. Body laungauge is everything isnt it?

But the fact is.... no one can give both with meaning both. Usually someone will act like they love someone but can not say it. Or someone will say they love someone and not act it.

'no one can give both with meaning both.'

I do.

You have problems. There are better guys out there.

umm im a guy thank you very much. And uhh... i thought i gave both too and i guess i didnt. So there for that doesnt mean you give both. You could just as easily think you do.

I bet you do... but thats not what my point is... my point is, is that when a guy loves a girl... iT VERY VERY hard for him to give both things AT the same time...

'umm im a guy thank you very much.'

Yes I know you are a guy.

'And uhh... i thought i gave both too and i guess i didnt.'

Yes because you are stupid. And you inductively did not love her.

'I bet you do... but thats not what my point is... my point is, is that when a guy loves a girl... iT VERY VERY hard for him to give both things AT the same time...'

No it's not, it's easy. I don't even think about it, I love her so much it just happens. The point is, you have to learn what love is before you try practising it. Good luck chump.

You are all wrong, atleast i think so. It comes easy for some people and not as easy for others. If you love someone so much, you would think everything you do is done with care... so there for doing everything is done with procaution. Making it more difficult. Not wanting it to mess up. May come easy for you, because.. you may not love her the same way as someone else might. Or the other way around. In the long run it doesnt matter. I made this forum to see what others think, not to start a war.

'you would think everything you do is done with care... so there for doing everything is done with procaution. '

Firstly, care and precaution are two completely different words. Get a dictionary. Secondly, if you love someone, why would you have to be so careful as to what you do? You should love someone for who they are, and they should love you for who you are, so neither of you should have to think before you act for daily everything.

Thank you i know they are two different things, ill make sure i pray for you every night.

And everything you are saying is true.. but you are missing my point completetly...

Two guys carried away by their opinions haha...just drop it and simply try to be sweet in your way. Be it words, actions or both...just so long as the receiver enjoys it...it's successful.

Good point...

Oh and Colby...this is unrelated...but don't use your age and inexperience as a shield/reason. It's your time to find out what you know..what you will know. Just face the world as is...there are intimidating and unclear parts...but why are you here? You're here to find out :) Good luck young man

Im not using my age as a coverup.... im simply saying... i odnt know as much as other people know... so... help me haha

There are lots of things that you can't be helped with. At least from what I've experienced. A lot of it is just discovery. While people will be there to give you pointers...the rest is still up to you.

Relationships are all about working things through and compromise, but are you saying males are incapable of giving emotions + physicality? Well guess what? I am the most sensitive nympho you will ever meet in your life. And guess what? the issue is not exclusive to guys. I know guys who are unbelievably sweet guys and girls who are sex-crazed and unemotional. personality traits are not limited strictly to one gender.

I never said they were... i guess i should of never made this post... people took it the wrong way..

well you asked which one, so naturally there's going to be some debate.

If you ask me, I think a girl (or anyone for that matter) should be appreciative of what they DO recieve from their lover, and not dwell upon what they don't get. If someone is a sweet-talker, or if someone is sweet in action, learn to be grateful for them, and then perhaps they'll want to do more to please you.

Just a thought.

(It was a good topic, by the way.)^^

TAYLOR!!! I LOVE YA!!

your the only one that has gotten the meaning of this flippin post!!!

:) I try. haha

every girl wants sweet action and talk. my bf is sweet action. The way he asked me out was bought me a teddy bear and rose and said will you go out with me and he is always doing something for me. but when he wants to say like you look pretty he says hot( which in my case i absoultly hate.)

I personally like and need a little of both but then to receive both you have to be able to give both =P
I'm better at showing then telling because I both get really nervous and can't find the right words and it's easier to step back when the real words haven't been said aloud *at least for me*
Really though I think that for a relationship to work you should be able to see the heart behind what the other person does, be it action or speech, and be grateful for it either way ^.^
I guess though that if I had to pick between one or the other *which I hope I never really do* I'd take a guy that showed me he loved me because anyone you pass on the street can say your beautiful but only a person that really cares for you can show you they care and if you look behind the act you'll be able to see it just as clearly as if they said it =)
***Rhea***

I dnot know but i like sweet action b/c talking is just talking but when you do it .... it means something!