help w/ a birthday

Ok my son is having his birthday party in a few weeks. it's going to be a water party in our yard (water slide, moonwalk (jumping thing), water guns, water balloons ect.) and I have to make the invitations myself. Can someone give me a suggestion on what to put on the invitations. Like what they should say?? (first year i've had to make them myself)

thanks,
silence

When in need of creativity...look to children.

haha...I don't know how old he is and whether you can verbally communicate with him now...but if you can, ask your son what he would want to have on the invitations. If you're keeping it as a surprise then you'd have to work on it without your son's help haha.

It also depends on who you're addressing to with these invitations. The adults or the kids. With both of them...You would need to have a list of the activities and what's available during the party (food, drinks, snacks, etc.)...the schedule for the day...contact info. If it's specifically for the adults (parents)...you need to convince them that it's well-organized and safe (*this is very important*). Be ready to listen to special needs for their children. Ask if they have suggestions or any questions. If it's specifically for the kids...the info still needs to be there...but you can be a little less formal when you write them. The design can also be less formal and fun-looking to be inviting. Though formal looks would do if it's just for the adults.

Well my son will be 4 and most of the kids that are coming are 4 and under so they won't really be able to read the invitation.

this did help me out alot though. Thank you. I think i'll start working on them now and see what I can come up with before I get home.

You're very welcomed. Good luck with the invitations and the party...you're an awesome mom :) It must be hard, but you are surviving. Keep up the good-work :D It's also important to find a healthy relief for all the tension. Again, I wish you good luck

Well thank you very much :) I'm surviving the best way I know how lol and if you have any idea's for that healthy relief you just let me know. Right now it's to go outside and scream as loud as I can and then sit down and write a poem. Thank's again

Where are your friends? I know you are busy...but you should try to make time for friends. It's surprisingly helpful to just complain to them haha. You can also set time aside for yourself with an activity (physical) that takes you away from your worries temporarily. Some people run or swim...others climb or meditate. For some, simply sitting in a nice comfy chair with a nice cup of coffee or tea. You don't have to do it often..just once in a while. Get in touch with yourself...check and see how you're holding up. When you're relaxed, you can plan better what you have to do later on. If you plan better, there is a better chance of having success...which leads to more calm and relax..it's a nice cycle when it works haha.

Even with all that said...it's hard to pull time out because of your situation. 4 year olds need a lot of attention...actually no matter how old you'd still want to provide that attenion haha. Just try to get some more time to yourself.

What friends? When I get around my friends it's for them to vent or me to help. It's one sided really. They really don't have time to listen to me. I try to walk and even then I have to take my son and he's running his mouth. lol Even when I go to bed he's usually still in his bedroom watching a movie and asking me questions in the other room. Last night I tried to go to bed early because I had to be at work at 5 this morning, which meant getting up at 4, and he decided he wasn't going to go to sleep until about 11 or 12. It was miserable.

Ahh...adorable angel he is...haha I know...there's just no getting away from him. You should try to shape that little guy now. Teach him compassion and patience. Try to explain to him that you're tired and sometimes you need rest more than other moments. It's easier to give him what he wants because you love him..but you have your needs too. You're still young so you can handle it now...but you can still over-work youself.

I think you need to have a talk with your friends. Don't they understand how hard your situation is? Even if they have to bad as well or have it worse...it's not right to just roll over your needs in the friendship.

My son is very compassionate, he's just not patient lol If I tell him I'm sick he'll get my pillow and blanket and lay with me on the couch and watch cartoons and things like that but to have to wait on something is a different story. He doesn't let me leave much without him because my ex-boyfriend walked out on him. (along with his father not being around that was kind of a blow to him) I actually have Friday off. I only have to work a couple of hours because I'm working so much this week and I can't have overtime so I'm going to take him to daycare, work my couple of hours and then just take some time for myself after I go pay bills and things.

The majority of my friends have kids so they somewhat understand but none of them are single parents so they don't really realize what I go through on a day to day basis.

That's cute :)...but you have to teach him to be patient too...my mom didn't really. Not that I blame her...but yea..now I can be impatient haha.

It must be tough on both of you for them to do that...sigh..some men are jerks...and I'm gonna call your friends jerks too =P cause they should know better. I get what you mean with taking time to yourself as you're running errands. Sometimes I do that too. That's when I take my time and I won't even mind the long line-ups at the banks. I'd walk instead of taking transit...I'd buy myself favourite goodies...a good lunch..and/or a drink I haven't had in a while. That's my little escape when I feel like I've worked too much haha.

Any idea's on how to teach a 3 year old patience? If so please share :) I haven't figured that one out yet and has none whatsoever

I've gotten used to men over the years. My last boyfriend walked out after 3 years. My son was 11 months old when we met. (he met a new woman) Yes my friends should know better. *sigh* There's not much help for them though. I wish I could walk but I don't have a choice but to drive my car wherever I want to go. I live about 45 mins out of town. I might take myself out to eat though :) That sounds nice :)

If only I knew...I've yet to have my own family. I can't wait haha...It's so strange. It was about 2 years ago...I was sitting in church and they preached about fatherly love...and I just felt the pride, joy, love, expecations..and more that comes with being a father. From then on..I wanted sons and daughters. I'd rather have sons actually...cause I know men can be jerks...I would love my daughters too much to put them forth into a world like so...-_- but I wouldn't mind raising some potential jerks but forming them well to be gentlemens..haha...yes..I'm odd. What did it feel like when you first held him? haha...hope it's as beautiful as I think is would be.

Well I suffered from horrible post pardom depression so unfortunatly it wasn't that great for me. Me and my son have started forming our bond in about the last year or so. That's why I feel so bad now because when he was such a small infant he didn't really have me and he didn't have a father (his dad has never seen him) but he had my mom and my dad so he's very close to them now. When he was born I was terrified that I couldn't take care of him on my own. I've finally learned to live with those emotions.

I'm scared to have another child because I don't think I could raise 2 alone and at this point I'm scared of being walked out on again.

That's very understandable. It would be harder for you with two children. I do hope you'll find a supporting husband though. By what I know...it's better to try and find one now...while your son is still young. This way they can both adjust to each other. It's harder for your son when he's older. Is there a potential someone in your life right now?

no. My ex walked out on us in November so we've been dealing with the holidays and getting ready for his birthday. I know there are no potential men around here anyway. They're all known for walking out on their responsibilitys.

Unless you're from a really small town where you basically know everyone...it's not time to shut the doors to other possibilities just yet. If you're happy with how things are now though..it's better to just keep going with it. Can't say I know much about matters as such haha. When not proving useful..wish for luck. Good luck hehe Still...I'm willing to listen if ever you wish to share. It's just that I haven't had solid experience with matters you go through.

I wish for luck alot :) I'm from a really big city but I live in a small one now. Everybody knows everybody so it's not exactly the place to meet people. I'm happy but I'm not but I'm sure it will all work out in the end.

That's good :) I see you're a strong person. You will survive and well at it too hehe

Look how we've swayed from topic...haha...what's your idea on the invitation - if you've got any right now.

lol yes but I was enjoying the conversation :)

Well I have some paper with balloons on the border so I'm thinking of hand writting the actual invitation. *general idea*
You're invited to Jase's water party!
time
date
place
please bring swim suit!

fun includes: moonwalk, water slides, water guns, water balloons, and more

lunch will be served with cake and ice cream to follow
please let me know if you plan to attend

what do you think?

looks pretty good :) just have include your contact info on the actual invitations. Thank you for sharing with me. I'm glad you enjoyed our talk haha. Jase...nice name. What is your name? You can call me Joseph

Well Joseph it has been great talking with you today. Hopefully we can continue this tomorrow. I'm getting off work now (well soon) My name is Ashlie. You can call me Ashlie, Ash or silence. I go by them all :) Thanks for all your help today as well!! Hope to talk to you soon

Joseph is pleasant, isn't he? Ha!

-_- Ashlie...meet my graceful leader (of our poetry club). She's just jealous that I'm nice to you =P She wants all to hail her

Haha, Ash, I think you should know this before pursuing a further relationship...Joseph is a compulsive liar. I don't want all to hail to me, all hail to me due to their want. It's a bit pitiful. Ok fine, maybe I'm jealous. I have a crush on Joseph.

Joseph, can I call you Joey or something? Joseph is tedious to type out.

Good luck with birthday cards, Ash. Is that even what you want help with? I didn't read...

Hmm...Elisabetta already calls me that...though she's never used it...so sure...call me Joey. I'm not a compulsive liar. I just like to make fun of you as you make fun of me...we're "mutual" She's working on invitations to a party.

Ah, ok Joey. Yes, I know you aren't a compulsive liar, it was a failure of a joke. Can I have a hug?

Ash, list the time, date, location, and list some of what will be offered. I would suggest bringing a bathing suit and towel, somewhere in the card. AND make sure it's child friendly, no big words or inappropriate language. Sound good?

It does sound good Daenerys Stormborn. Thank you. I forgot all about the towel thing.

Joseph is very plesant :) I actually didn't want to leave work today. That's a first for me.

What poetry group are you in? Mine is completly silent.

THanks again for your help.

We're in Poetry World Domination. Haha Though we only have some members that are more active than others...it's usually enough to cover and make up a fun environment. You should consider joining. I can't guarantee you'd always have pleasant conversations but I'm sure we'd welcome you...think about it and let me know if you wish to join =)

Thanks Ashlie. Again, I'm glad you enjoyed it. Hope to talk to you another time soon =D

I've seen the posts around for that club. I'm currently running a contest in my club so I can't back out now but I'll deffinatly think about it. It ends tomorrow anyway. I will let you know as soon as I decide :)

Once again it's 5 am and I'm back to work. Will it ever end?

My goodness..you're working too hard. Isn't there another job you can take??

Nope. This is it. Although today I only have to work 5 am to 6:30 am so it's not so bad I guess. Drice an hour to work an hour and a half and then go home lol.

What kind of job is this?? I wouldn't mind having to work only 1.5 hours even if it means getting up early haha. By the way, how are you today?

It's an office job. It was pretty nice having almost a whole weekend off but it was rough off me too. I took advantage of being off lol
I extremly tired today. How about yourself?

not so bad I guess...I've just been catching up on paper work and getting every tied down before my trip back to China haha...business-trip mainly so it's gonna be quite a bit of work for the next month or so. Leaving on the 11th. I'll still try to check in here once in a while so if you want to share..I hope I'll be still available :D

lol oh ok. I see how it is. I make a new friend and then you just leave me *pout* j/k I hope you have fun in China. They have a big anouncment for us at work so I'm kinda worried about that but I guess we'll see. I did finally get Jase's invitations made. :) and he won some awards at the bike show this weekend *yea* He won "2nd place future rider" because he was decked out in his Harley gear and he won "1rst place Future Rider Photo Contest" and got a big trophy. It was really cool. I will let you get back to your work now. I'm going to try to finsih mine so I can get home. Talk to you soon.

haha...it wouldn't be permanent. I'm only there for a month or so. What exactly did they announce? That's really cute haha "Future Rider" I bet he had lots of fun there. Good to know that you've completed the invitations. Hope you'll get a good response when you send them out. How much long till it actually happens? It's not all that much work...though it can feel like I'm out of place with piles of paper-work I need to set in order...and I gotta prepare myself for the trip...it's around 25+ degrees there now O.o my goodness...almost sounds a bit too warm now haha

A month or so is a lifetime to some people. They haven't announced anything yet. They just keep saying they have one for us. It should be interesting I guess. The actual party is April 22nd so I have about 3 weeks to get everything together. 25+ does seem high. I don't like the heat that much. I would rather be cold then hot. More excuses to cuddle lol

Haha...that's also one of my reasons for liking winter better. You're right. Though it's rare for us to think about time that way. There aren't that many "month or so"s in our lives. Goes to show we should appreciate things more :) Thanks for reminding me of that hehe The 3 weeks would fly by pretty fast...though it should give you enough time to organize a great party :)

Yeah when you have a child you realize how precious a month is or how long a week, or even a day, can be. I'm probably going to get everything together next weekend. This weekend I have to deal with easter bunny stuff. Oh will it ever end?! lol

haha
that's why sometimes life just flies right by. At moments...we're just living event by event. It as if it doesn't really matter what day of the week it is. Well, at least that's how it feels like for me. I lose track of what day it is sometimes haha it's been a while since the dull 5-day school weeks...I don't even appreciate weekends as much I did. What's planned for easter? I'd probably just eat a bit of chocolate to pass it