How should I tell my pastor and his wife this?

My pastor and his wife tell the youth group that they run that I am in no boy girl special time but after they say it they kiss or hug hold hands and things like that. But I feel that if it is a rule they made that even if they are married and use it as a reason to do it that they should follow the rule also while they are their..... I just don't know who to tell them it.

I really love my church but I feel that they need to follow the rules and not use that they are married as a reason to do what ever it is that they want in front of them.
~Brooke~

I hate that whole do as i say and not as i do stuff. it's all hogwash, horse hockey, bull, so on so forth

Same goes for me. I don't like it one bit.

That sort of thing should not be in a church, damnation

How can you tell them that they can't hug, kiss, and hold hands if they're married? Maybe it does seem hard to watch when you have rules to follow but it's something you can look forward to when you get married.
I mean I would find something really wrong if my pastor and his wife didn't hug or kiss on occasion. And I don't mean making out-nearly having sex type of thing though.
But really... they're married, you're not. According to what they obviously teach... they can and you can't. It's your choice if you like it and follow it or not.

I do agree with that.

I don't really agree with it because they are supposed to set a good example for the youth and them making out in front of us and pinching eachothers butt and doing things like that is not a good example even if they are married. I really think they do need to follow the rules that they make for the two in a half hours they are running youth of Fridays. My boyfriend and I don't like not being able to hug or hold hands at all but at youth we follow the rules and respect their wishes while we are at youth and I feel they should be able to do the same as well.

I am going to. But I am going to talk to them about it and tell them how I feel and some of the onther youth feel the same way and I know that they should understand what it is I am saying.

Stop going to youth group. Why would you choose to sit under that type of leadership. Secondly, marriage means absolutely nothing as for the right to kiss and makeout and that jazz. Everybody has the right. It isn't sin tohold hands, kiss, or anything like that. I suggest that you ask other kids in your youth group what they think of it, and if you have a num,ber of them that feel the same as you, then you approach the pastor and his wife as a group. Power in nmbers. And if nothing happens, then you post signs that say no pda. It is awkward that they would tell you that you cant even hold hands and then they play grab ass in front of you. Typical of religion though.

I will but I still feel I need to talk to them because if I do something they don't want me to do I listen and don't do it in front of them when it is my own rule I make.....And that is what they would want me to do.

Thank you I will take you up on your advice. I agree with you.

Whoa? Typical religion? You shouldn't generalize this thing. And as far as them pinching butts? Now that's ridiculous and should be stopped. But if you're under that leadership and that religion then marriage has everything to do with making out or whatever. But like I said before... if they're flat out making out where they're about to have sex in front of you then they shouldn't do that.

Well yesterday I went to Youth group with my boyfriend like always and we played a game where you had to be in a circle and hold hands so he and I were next to each other and when it came to letting go he and I just kept holding hands I know it made them mad but you know the need to get a little mad and maby they will learn to know that it is not right to tell the youth one thing and then to break the rule that they made.

Okay angel, after my last post you admitted that they did more than you let out in your first post. i don't know if you chose to leave that little info out or you are trying to give yourself more reason for vindication when others don't agree.
my ideas on the whole is that you are not your boyfriend's property, technically you are the responsibility of whoever your parent/gaurdian is and if your pastor or whoever decides to kiss his wife it isn't bad because he took the responsibility from her father when he married her.
i'm sorry you can't kissy kissy with your beau but your leaders are not being irresponsible at all.

They made a vow to give themselves to each other, you didn't.

personally i seriously doubt that they pinched each other and had a makeout session infront of all of you. i seriously doubt they told you to sit there while they had an all night tongue wrestling match.

if so, then what are you doing in such a church.

They do things like that but now that I have talked to them today they understood and said that in front of the youth that they would not do it in front of us. I don't kissy kissy with my boyfriend unless it is just us I will hold his hand but not kiss all over him.