The audacity!

I go to this family's house nearby so i can go to church and go and work in the church's nursing home ministry.
this family took in a guy, his wife and their two kids. keep with me now.

i've done so many services for this family and they are grateful, i don't ask for payment for my deeds but they offer it anyway.
well the wife of the new border family calls me a moocher everytime i see her. she sasys that when i'm at the house for the one day that i am that i eat all their food and walk around with stinky feet.

that angers me but not as much as today when she said i practically steal from the owners of the house by demanding payment for the good deeds i do.

i can take personal attacks but when they are attacks on my integrity, and my character them i can't stand it. so i said i would never step foot in their house until the "perfect" wife left. i even resigned from my post in the nursing home. i will now walk the four miles to and from church on my own steam

was i right? should i really have taken such a burden on my shoulders for the sake of an assault on my character?

Ohh...

You poor thing...Now you have to go four miles, to renew and reiterate your faith.

But tell me something why would this wife of the new boarder, say such callous words...I think you need to elaborate on that, and also why call you "stinky feet" without solid provocation.

And why did she use the word "Moocher" and "Stinky feet" as a way to get your goat...?

I think maybe to many you are a moocher and you do have stinky feet...

Why not try "Odor Eaters" next time....You try and visit the house.

As to the case on assualt of character...I wouldn't call it an assualt rather defamation of character. And yes she did defame your character...

Now explain in detail what actually happen taking into account the other person's side.

Okay, when i walked in today she mentioned how i'm always around, she's been gone in iowa for the past week by the way.
so i said that i'm only here on sundays unless the family who owns the house asks me to watch their 10 year old kid during the day while they are gone.
after a little mediation by the middle child she goes back to me being there so much so she starts spouting off on how i shouldn't accept money by watching the family's kid, i should do it for free.
so i say that i never ask for money, that they offer it. then she starts spouting off on how my shoes and feet stink (it's funny how i left the shoes that i walked over in on the front porch and that i wash my feet daily)
then after the middle child tried to mediate the situation she starts telling all of us how we never clean up after ourselves when her husband left a few packages of ramen noodles lying around.
so i got angry and stomped out of the house, i also left my cellphone there accidentally

Noir, you have got a really bad attitude. Some people think you are amusing in a sarcastic way, I just think you are a parasite, a verbal parasite.

You feed on other peoples misfortunes and mistakes and you never miss an opportunity to take a dig at someone.

David wasn't asking for you to insult him, which you did several times in your first reply to him, in a barely subtle way. He was talking in a very honest and none threatening manner about a troubling situation he had experienced, and all you could do was pick up the small doubts he had and magnify them back to him in the form of negative insinuations.

I think you are out of order and you should offer an apology.

I wasn't going to say anything but i agree

If she were a boy i'd just take her outside and go a few rounds

You know really it sounds to me that she is more of the "moocher" and also I think that you should tell the owner about it. Umm...I also think you may have lost your cell phone for good if she gets her hands on it! Be sure to talk to the owner in private, with out the other woman, and ask about the phone too, just to be safe.

I did that last night and they just told me to get over it because it's in her nature to be bossy and manipulative. i was sort of hoping for instructions on how to deal with it before i explode but i didn't get any

Kevin:

You know you never miss a chance to tell me what you think..It's funny and quite sad at the same time. It's strange, but I do remember you saying that my personality was exactly like yours...Which would mean that you too are a verbal parasite...

I gave david my opinion which was to elaborate, and I also told him why people would suddenly call insult him with no provacation.

I wasn't insulting him, merely asking him to give me the full story...So I can understand where he is coming from...

I will not offer an apology for speaking my opinion, I mean you calling me a parasite would incite me to call you "out of order"....Now would I?

If David reads my original post fully and clearly and feels that I have insulted him, I would apologize. Other than that...I am all good!

Not "people", "person"

I presumed the husband who is with the wife, would make it from a singular "person" to plural "people"...

Well, if you read the post underneath my original one, you will see that David did in fact think the same as me, that you were out of order and should apologize.

So if you mean what you just said, then do it.

I'd try not to worry too much about it, David. She seems to be the only one who has a problem with you, and it appears that nobody else gives credence to her rantings. Furthermore, if the family recognizes that she is prone to meanness and manipulation, then your reputation whould not be in danger.

But even if it were... it doesn't really matter, does it? YOU know the truth of the situation, and that's the only thing you should really, morally, have to worry about. I'd say - don't break your tradition. Keep going to their house. Try not to give in to her by sinking to her level. Try to remember that you don't know her whole situation, and maybe there's a reason why she is so strange. Anyway. You're a cool fellow, I think you'll be just fine.

Who is your picture of now, by the way?

Joshua lawrence chamberlain

Could you tell me about him? Or do I have to go through all the trouble of entering his name into wikipedia myself? ; )

He faught in the civil war and won the medal of honor. in the battle of gettysburg the confederates hurled all they had at his position, his regiment was at the very end so if he was beaten then the confederates could just sneak behind the whole union army. soon enough his men started running out of ammunition, with not many choices left he ordered a bayonet charge sweeping the confederates off the field and winning the day

he was wounded six times during the war. one of those times a bullet went through one side of his hip and out the other, instead of falling down he leaned on his sword, urging his men forward until he passed out from blood loss

he's been the host of two movies and several books.

: ) thanks, kid. He sounds like an interesting fellow... I may have to read up!

Fine...

David, clearly I was out of order, like an elevator...Forgive my blatant insinuations...

Bold effort Noir, what a gent.

I accept your apology