I still love him.

Ok i broke up with a boy named.....(eh we'll call him uhh N for now) N a while ago and i still cant get over him. we loved eachother so much i know for a fact it was real b/c i've never in my life felt this way before. we had a love like no other (no lie) it was beautiful, but the distance between us didnt cut it
=[ so he let me go. we promised we'd still talk, but we dont wich is sad. well, i tried to still be his friend but i made a few mistakes and now he hates me!! but i still love him. its just really hard not knowing that if he did love me like he said does he still have feelings? does he care even a lil bit? is this whole thing hurting him just as much as it is me? or does he not care? and completely hate me????? im so confused.

You are 14, every love will feel like no other has because they are your first experiences and no 2 relationships are the same. Everyone deals with their emotions differently, just because it may not be blantently obvious he is hurting does not mean he isn't. You made mistakes, he dislikes you, leave him alone and move on, the more you push the worse it will be. Who knows what could happen one day, but by far it is not the end of the world. Time heals, no one ever said it was fast.

Gee........ thanks?

Sorry I figured you were looking for an honest answer.

The sugar coated version:
I understand, You're going through the hardest time EVER..and yeah you probabaly feel like you'll 'die' without him. You were soo IN LOVE, how are you supposed to forget it all? I know how you feel, I went through this. It's really hard. But you know, maybe try to get you mind off him. I understand this will take a while..and you'll probabaly feel really sad, and it feels like it's IMPOSSIBLE to let him go, but trust me you can. It just takes lots of time. Don't worry, you'll get there. Try haging out with friends more. They help.

Oh who am I kidding?.....

The blunt truth: You probably won't even remember him in a few years. Haha. Actually you'll probably look back at this and laugh. If it didn't work out it means it wasn't supposed to. You're young, there will be other guys.

--Viola

Who was being harsh or bullying?

Beautiful Chaos couldn't of said it any better. I would of been more sarcastic, but I won't get into it.

You are going to get harsh comments on this site for the main reason being that most ppl on here are older and some have actually been through what you are going trough. so just because some ppl arebeing harsh in your eyes doesn't mean that they aren't trying to help.

Leave him be for a few weeks and let him come to you.
Hang out with friends to take your mind off him, read some books, write some poetry..

Funny, how judgemental people on this site can be. She may forget him in a few years.. But that doesnt mean you should disregard what she thought she felt. Or did feel. We've all been 14, and 16 year olds lecturing aren't very far from the same age.

As Gem said, time heals all wounds. She always beats me to it.

Eat ice cream.

I'm not being judgemental. Sorry if you happen to see it that way.
I know that a breakup at 14 years old IS a big deal, to the person. I'm not denying her the fact that it WILL be hard to go through this. All I'm trying to say is, she'll get over it, like everyone else has.

Well then how does young and in love work>???

How does love at any age work? I don't know, Love is a complicted thing, it can't be put into words.

Good answer^

The sugar coated version:
I understand, You're going through the hardest time EVER..and yeah you probabaly feel like you'll 'die' without him. You were soo IN LOVE, how are you supposed to forget it all? I know how you feel, I went through this. It's really hard. But you know, maybe try to get you mind off him. I understand this will take a while..and you'll probabaly feel really sad, and it feels like it's IMPOSSIBLE to let him go, but trust me you can. It just takes lots of time. Don't worry, you'll get there. Try haging out with friends more. They help.

Oh who am I kidding?.....

The blunt truth: You probably won't even remember him in a few years. Haha. Actually you'll probably look back at this and laugh. If it didn't work out it means it wasn't supposed to. You're young, there will be other guys.

--Viola

I beleive she said and i quote "we loved eachother so much i know for a fact it was real b/c i've never in my life felt this way before." If she felt that way about him do you seriously beleive that she is goingt to forget him in a few years?? i mean seriously, people who say that kind of stuff just suck at love and nobody loves them. NOBODY THINKS LIKE THAT i wouldnt take it personally most likely she has just broken up with someone too and is really pissed off.

xxo hope u figure it out hunnie.

Need the subject of her age even come into the discussion? No. She said she loved someone, didn't know how to make those feelings go away. Not, "I'm 14 and i loved a boy so much i could never get over him." She either liked him a lot or loved him, but she's TRYING. So leave age out of it.

Another thing that could be done.. Go out with your mates. They can make you smile, laugh, have a good time. Getting your mind off of it is key. Then eventually.. Your thoughts will stray from such depressing thoughts and you might even find someone interesting inside or outside your group of mates.

"Go out with your mates."

^Did I not say that as well?
"Try haging out with friends more. They help."

You guys are making me out to be so mean and evil, but that was never my intention at all.
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Never mind, it could have simply just been that I was having a bad day, or was not thinking clearly. I'd hate to think I hurt anyone's feelings by what I said.

Your young. and he may just have been happy about it. people at young ages tend to actually want to BE (side by side) with each other. maybe he does like you, but he may also want someone he can hold.