Confidence

Iv been shy and not very confident my whole life and iv never really understood why, both my brother and sister are very confident in what they do and havent had a problem with talking to people.
I really want to face my confidence issue so i can actually stand up for my self and be confident in my self.

so what makes you more confident in your self?

When I accomplish things I set out to do, and do it well - what I consider well. - And when I don't compare myself to others, that can also boost my confidence.

Of course, it is nice to have other people tell you that you've done something well, but don't put too much stock in the comments by people who put you down (I don't mean constructive critiquing - I mean criticism and meanness) - Consider the source, and who they are as people.

It took me a very long time to overcome my shyness. You can do it.

Im shy around new people if im not with friends, but if im with my friends, i act the same around new people....
i'm usually avery outgoing, funny person.. im charismatic, you might say. i dont know why.. i guess i just decided i dont care what people think!
because if someones gonna judge me, theyre not worth it, and if theyre worth it, they wont judge me.

I have that attitude too, im shy if m new in the pLace. but i abLe to conquer it simpLy by heLping my seLf.

U wiLL be confident if u know aLot of things.
if u can prove what ur saying has a sense.
if u dont emitate others.

It could very well change as you get older.

I used to be very shy and had no confidence.

These days however I am always making people laugh and I am always striving to finish first. The trick is to realise that the only way to get over it is to get out there and working hard.

Simply stop thinking about ur sis and bros. they are diff, and so as u are.
make a difference, dont live with there shadow and stop comparing what they can on what u cant

Easier said than done....^^^^

Mmm very much easyer said then done...

I'm usually never really shy unless at a new work environment. Other than that, my ability to make people laugh at a given time.. gives me confidence.

Get a job. It's done wonders for my shyness problem.

Really, Jenn? You've never crossed me as the funny type.

It takes some force. You have to get active and not let the shy manner control you. Get a job, say hi to people at school. You'd be amazed how many strangers are actually very friendly.

Hell, a new kid just transfered here and all I did was walk up and say hello, and now we hang out regularly. You have to make yourself overcome your fear. Or it will drive stick.

Guess you'd have to know me in person, Ian.
All of my friends categorize me as the funny and outgoing one of the group.
Also the tree hugger.
That might aim to bring some 'humor' though.

Sorry to stray off topic everyone. :)

You know i would love to moves schools were no one knows me, because the one thing that made me even more shy is i had the people who used to bullie me go to the same school and all my problems from primary with the bullying just came back -.- I have to admite last year and this year has been alot better, iv actually kind of brought down my barriers but at the same time i keep them up, i fear of doing some thing that will put me into the who circle of torment again (as i like to call it)

Your lies aren't very funny and neither are you, Jennifer.

Switching schools is running from the problem. Don't succumb to that. Don't let people second guess or compromise the things that you know make you.

When I remember that what people see is what they believe, even if they know you really well.

Have you ever gotten dressed up and played a character that was really charming or super confident? Do you remember how that felt...you just knew how that character would act in any situation....you thought the character was confident, and so you made confident choices...

I'm not saying be fake and act....I'm just saying, bit by bit...slowly and without stress...do small things that make you feel stronger.

You have to know who you are and why you are before you can really be confident...once you know what you are all about, choices become very easy...and after all, confidence is all about knowing and choosing.

Ugh...

I think in overcoming shyness at first you do have to force yourself to do certain things like starting a conversation,or introducing yourself to someone new but in time you will become more comfortable with it ,and your confidence will grow as you feel more outgoing and in control.

I'm not very shy...but mostly thats because im not afraid to try new things and to do things that i WANT to do. What i think you need to do is to take in consideration others opinions...but then just decide for urself a decision in doing something. trust me, when u follow others-most of the time it doesnt work out so well. Just follow your heart and do wat YOU want to do.