My Boyfriend Is Moving To Las Vegas

Okay.. to start things off, I have a GREAT and just simply amazing relationship with this guy named Tyler. I have strong feelings for him and he makes me so happy.. but I found out that he's moving next month on the 10th =( We both live here in Arkansas right now.. but whenever he moves, he's going practically to the other side of the country to Las Vegas. I highly doubt he'll be able to come visit me.. the drive and flight is just too much to ask for. He has been living with his uncle but his brother Ryan is making him move back in with him and he doesn't have a choice in the matter.

What should I do? I'm so happy with Tyler.. but.. things will be so different whenever he leaves. It really upsets me because there's nothing I can do about it. We'll only be able to talk on the phone, but that alone will be difficult.. he has to keep putting money on his phone, and what will happen whenever he runs out of money and we can't talk for weeks? It really worries me.. I have no idea if we should just break it off whenever he moves, or try to keep the relationship as stable as we can. Any advice?

No offense but i never liked arkansas. too hilly for my taste.

but serously, if it's really as great as you say then distances should not matter. you can let people get under your skin saying long distance relationships don't work but in the end it all comes down to love and patience

Haha, no worries Atticus. I don't like Arkansas myself.. but if I could move then I definitely would. I'm off to California after I graduate!! Anyways!!

We do have a great relationship.. but I have done long distance relationships before and whenever you're unable to talk and see each other for too long, it gets really lonely. I'm just afraid I won't be able to talk to him for long periods of time and it may change our feelings towards each other.

Pennsylvania, now there is a nice state, lovely ground

Long distance sucks. I'm sort of in a long distance relationship at the moment, but it kind of works out since our cities are close and we have opportunities to visit each other.

I say move on for now. Love is a sensitive thing sometimes, with sometimes unfair requirements depending on the situation (time, money, being in the same place). I don't think you need to stop loving him, but a relationship will be really tough. If it's meant to be, you'll cross paths again.

If you love him, stick by him. im my opinion. My boyfriend almost had to move very far away and we were faced with that choice... we chose to stay together and it turned out he could stay. whee!

Like i said don't let other people tell you to discard the man you like SIMPLY because it's long distance

He's right, don't discard. But don't close yourself off to other opportunities and other people SIMPLY because he MIGHT come back or you MIGHT be able to go there. I have seen many LDRs fail, and a few succeed. Either way, I have heard the same thing about all of them, they are difficult. Idealism vs realism, gotta find a balance between the two depending on what your gut tells ya.

A realist is a pessimists' next door neighbor

okay, instead of dealing in mights try to prove all the statistics wrong about long distance relationships

Lol, let's drown her in cliches then.

Hope can be a double edged sword. The higher you set them, the further you have to fall. It might be a silly and extreme analogy, but you can be so idealistic, hopeful and confident in the belief that you can jump off a cliff and survive. Does that mean you will? SOMETIMES, love can make us illogical, though that is a reason it can both be painful, yet wonderful.

Listen inside of you for what feels right. Try as you might, you can't put a square peg in a round hole and you may just hurt yourself trying is all I'm saying.

If your hopes are set high then crushed you can atleast say you went farther than anyone else would have, you experienced something only the brave experience

Letting go often requires more courage and bravery than hanging on.

What shows more bravery: letting go of love and having nothing to lose afterward, or someone who braves the straits of peril risking it all just for love?

The very act of letting go is a loss in itself so to say that you would lose nothing afterwards, well, I don't think I agree. Many experience situations where letting go is the more difficult choice, but in the end positive choice. This is why I say it depends. Letting go of love also requires faith and the courage to believe you will find it again as well.

Letting go is the polite phrase for quitting

Sometimes. Just as sometimes, the refusal to give up on love is known as "stalking". While I'm loving this reparté and I'm quite enjoying the way you are making me challenge my own thoughts, I have to go and meet a friend to watch a hockey game. But I'd like to continue the discussion later.

PS: Heroes rules and I think we jacked this thread :(

See you later man, have fun

Awww.. I really needed this thread for advice, I have no idea what has been going on ever since my last posting on here..

This is serious. I really need to know what I should do.. so please guys, help me out here.

I apologize for our debacle, but if you read over our arguments, I think you'll find that there is no easy answer.

I think you can still love the guy and pursue other people if he is away, but apparently I am the resident naiveist here. Try the long distance thing, you won't know it won't work unless you at least try. Yes, it will be difficult, yes, it will get lonely. If he's worth it to you, then go for it. He might not want to do it, and if that's the case, well, you have to let go. You never know, like I said, your paths may cross again someday and things work out logistically for the better.

Forget her debuvle our arguments were great

^ Excuse me?

And thank you Brian.. your words were greatly apperciated. Whenever Tyler moves, I'll try the LDR if he wants to.. if it doesn't work out then I guess there's nothing we can do about it and we'll both have to move on.