Need a Boyfriend

Hey, im 18 goin on 19. i have a 15 month old daughter, and i single cause i dumped my ex (look at y other post)..
well i feel very alone and it seems to me i need a man to make me feel special and i dont know why. things are seeming to b very stressful cause i want a boyfriend. where i moved to, there is no hangouts or nothing for a 18 yr old. im not in school so i dont know how to meet people. but i talk to this one guy online. im into him, but he dont seem into me... plz give me sum advice. i can really use it.. thx so much!

You have a child which puts you as a mother first, meaning please take time and rest after dumping your boyfriend. You do not want to make some poor guy a rebound and beside you are still so young with a little girl who is going to need her mommy every second of everyday.

No one needs anyone to make them feel special. Be a strong independent woman and most importantly, mother. You got rid of one bad seed, don't jump into another relationship, take your time, find yourself and make new friends.

I no u mite not listen as Im 15 but my mum split up with my father after a very abusive relationship and she has been single for 5 years and shes happy about it she realised that kids come first and u need to realise that to u are 18 and chose to have ur kid so u have to take care of her first. if u are meant to have a boyfriend/husband wateva u will evantually get the man u want I hope this helps

You want some sound advice?

Concentrate on your daughter. She's just lost her father you really don't need to confuse by introducing more people into her life.
You need to grow up a bit more and put her first, she's a lot more important than 'finding a man'.
As someone said further up, no one needs someone to make them feel special. Your daughter should do that for you and that should be more than enough.
You're a mother now, not a free and single 18 year old.
Act like it.

I think that you should stay single right now until you've realized you don't NEED a boyfriend. When your happy and most comfortable by yourself, that's when you should think of dating.

And as for right now...

Why in the sam hill are you so concerned about a boyfriend and going to "hang outs" when you should be concerned with your daughter?

This is the reason why you shouldn't have kids and get married at a young age. Theres too much irresponsibility!

Sorry Dave, but i disagree with what you're saying to some extent.
Her daughter has just had the trauma of losing her dad, moving away and doesn't need a mother who's more interested in meeting someone else right away than looking after her
I may sound harsh but some teen mothers need to realise that a child is not just a toy that can be played with at will. They are for life and need all the love and care possible and if someone is too preoccupied with finding a boyfriend because she feels 'alone' then they don't deserve a child.

I agree with Gem.

It seems that she's more concerned with a boyfriend then her child. She's too young.

Focus on your little girl first and take time to yourself and don't rush it.

give it time and give yourself time to heal after all that you have been through and your little girl is at the age where if you bring too many ppl into her life she might not know what to think.

you don't need a man to make you happy in life

Okay this topic is closed

thanx i guess,

especially for sayin i dont deserve a daughter. bye

No one is being judgemental, a lot of people are very protective over small children due to their own experiences.
My own mother for example was far more concerned with getting another man than looking after her own son which is where i came in. She has now had two more twin daughters which are always left alone with a babysitter while our mother goes out yet again with another man.

For someone to want to find another man straight after dumping their childs father needs to take some time out of dating to be there for the daughter. No one said SHE didn't deserve her daughter, people in general who don't consider their childrens feelings don't deserve kids.

No one says she doesn't deserve happiness with another man, for gods sake, there's a time and a place. Responsibilities come with having kids. Not just fun and laughter.

"No one said SHE didn't deserve her daughter, people in general who don't consider their childrens feelings don't deserve kids."

"They are for life and need all the love and care possible and if someone is too preoccupied with finding a boyfriend because she feels 'alone' then they don't deserve a child."

actually you did imply she didn't deserve her daughter, ( especially by quoting 'alone', even if you didn't mean it that way. she was just reading between the lines.

i agree with Dave, after she's settled if she can find balance then why not? keyword being settled

but anyways this discussion was closed, soo..

After she's settled yes, she's just dumped her daughters father, her daughter needs time to get over that, not meet a new 'dad' aleady.

And reading between lines that aren't there are what causes trouble so use common sense. It wasn't aimed at her, end of story

My friend is 17, with a 1 year old son, she always has a nw boyfriend and its affecting robbie[her son] and he's developing seperation anxiety.. think about that.

I agree with Dave, I think people need to put themselves in her shoes...it is NOT easy raising a child when you're that young all by yourself.

Watching my mother, I see that being a single mother is one of the hardest things to be, in my opinion. My mother loves me so much and I love her too, but I recognize that there is a love that I am unable to give her and I want her to find a man deserving of her.

That being said, I do agree to an extent with some of the people but as long as sexyproudmommy is taking care of her daughter and still focusing on her, wanting a partner is not a crime. And for the people who HAVE boyfriends/girlfriends saying this...come on now.

All im saying is, you can date a new guy everyday if you please, but don't make your daughter get attached and then be seperated from these men. no matter what age she is, that would affect her greatly. but you do deserve to have a partner, thats true. just make sure that the man you introduce to your daughter, is deserving of the privilege to meet her.

Well i know all this.... she comes first, i herd this a million times....

i already said this topic is closed... do u people respect anyone?