Rules of Attraction/Compatibility!!!

by Robert Gardiner   Feb 24, 2006


Rules of Attraction/Compatibility!!!

(These are some basic guidelines to finding a workable relationship and having a happy, harmonious union. They are guidelines to finding a wonderfully stimulating, well-balanced, give and take relationship. It is meant to help you in finding a worthwhile relationship (connection) and to help you examine present connections (relationships) to see your overall compatibility. Here's to finding the best possible mate, match, and partner and having worthwhile relationships!!! Good luck to all and God Bless...)

Rules of Attraction/Compatibility!!!

1) A Good Rapport: Having a harmonious relationship -with give and take-wherein communication flows freely and the parties involved have a mutual understanding of one another and relate well.

2) Mental Chemistry: it is important to a relationship and its survival to have mutual mental stimulation, to be mentally stimulated by your partner, that the parties involved are mentally compatible and able to communicate on a mental level. When the passion dies down and animalistic desires stop being the driving force of your relationship, that relationship has to be sustained in other ways, communication being one of them, and if you’re bored by your partners mental aptitude, their ability to effectively carry on a conversation, you’re soon to be bored, by them, thusly, you must have some sort of mental rapport, chemistry, to carry your relationship, when the intoxicating highs of love wane, die down!!!

3) Physical Attraction/Chemistry: that the person you’re involved with be someone that you find physically attractive and by whom you are physically aroused, stirred, that this person be someone you have a physical affiniy to and for and find physically stimulating, exciting, alluring.

4) A Mutual Affinity for one another: that you both have a mutual shared interest in one another, and an attraction to & liking of one another, and a feeling of kinship - wherein a similarity of nature exists between you two.

5) A Mutual Adoration, Admiration, Inclination and Affection For and Towards Each Other: that you Have Reverence, Respect, and Appreciation for one another with a High Fondness and Fancy, wherein you Just Like One Another and Enjoy One Another's Company.

6) An Emotional Connection: that you have strong feelings of love, caring, devotion, and kinship, towards each other, sharing empathy for one another's feelings.

7) Amorous feelings of Attraction/Affinity towards one another: that you’re strongly attracted to one another, with feelings of sexual love, desire, and affection, that you’re enamored of each other.

8) Sexual Compatibility: that you and your partner be on a similar sexual level, that your affinity of the sexual be in and of the same range, and your sex drives be in close proximity of one another’s.

9) A Soul Kinship: that you share a likeness of soul, spirit, being, that your essential essence be similar, and you possess a spiritual connection, a compatibility of souls, with similar character, Ideals, and values.

Important Definitions;

Character: one's main or essential nature;
the inherent compound and composition of attributes that determine a person's moral and ethical principles, values, actions and reactions

Ideals: the philosophy that governs someone's basic beliefs, values, and ethics and therefore, their behavior and actions

Values: a person's principles or standards of behavior that helps determine what is important in life (the belief system governing them)

If you found these guidelines to be sound, helpful, and to ring of truth, feel free to "Like" them. If you agree, disagree, or feel some rules (guidelines) are missing, were left out, let your voice be heard.

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  • 17 years ago

    by Robert Gardiner

    To the people who would comment that opposites can attract too and that this list is about two people being almost the same, I’d explain things as such and explain how these rules came into being:

    Opposites attract, but you can be too opposite, and the particular key in these rules is compatibility. It speaks of attraction, for attraction is important, but there have been plenty of people that I have been attracted to, but we just didn't vibe. Now, true, you can be too alike, and you do need to have some differences, to offset one another, when involved in a relationship, but too many, and it causes major areas of friction, which is not a good thing. What this post was basically born of was me taking a look at the people I vibed with and why I vibed with them, while also examining, the innate keys to attraction. And me personally, I want some one who can understand me at my basic core, and it's much easier when their core is basically the same as mine. I'm easygoing and free-spirited, and couldn't make it well with someone anal and over-stiff, or someone over domineering, physco, and on the jealous/possessive side. We just wouldn't mesh well. The anal, stuffy, stiff, person wouldn't allow for free-spirited fun, and I might soon get bored. With the over domineering, jealous, possessive type personality, I might have fiery passion, but that fire, I know, would burn, consume me eventually, for I just can't deal with all that stress, so for me, I would need someone who understands who I am and how I see things. They wouldn't have to agree with me, totally, but they would have to be able to deal, with what and who, I was, am. If your natures are just too different, can there be any bases of/for compatibility!!!

  • 18 years ago

    by dora

    Hey darl a t0uching piece. very well written. beautifully w0rded. amazing j0b 0n this.

    l0ve always d0ra