Help please this isn\'t a title
by AwakeInDreamin Aug 26, 2006
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Kay, so I have this Best friend. We’ve been best friends since we were five. We were going to go out this year but I was afraid and told him told him he should ask the other girl he liked out. Since I was his best friend he took my advice. They’ve been dating for 4 months now, and it’s been the longest 4 months in my life. A friendship that’s lasted 10 years is slowly being ruined. His girlfriend and I hate each other and I don’t know why. People have told me she’s a lot like me and I should try to become friends with her. Every time someone tells me that I get depressed. It hurts because I don’t want to know why he likes her more. Now in these past months I’ve realized my feelings for him and I don’t know what to do, I’m going insane! And there’s no way out. In these past months I’ve tried dating other people it hasn’t worked. Right now I don’t know what’s going to happen. Then his girlfriend moved 4 hours away and he’ll only see her on weekends. When I first found out I was happy, then five minutes later I felt bad for him and guilty that I felt happy before then. I keep seeing her and her pictures and then I see how unhappy he is and wonder if he’s ever going to be happy again. I wish this wasn’t his first serious relationship, then maybe he wouldn’t feel so bad when the long distance relationship starts to rip. As you probably know right now I don’t know if I should stay and be his best friend like I have been for ten years or if I should just leave him alone forever. I really need help. Does anyone have any suggestions at all? Please email me or comment me, please I really don’t know what to do. I can hear my heart breaking. |
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17 years ago
by Chelsea
Ok, See if this guy has liked you for a long time, and you guys have been friends for 10 years, then he just dosn't want to hurt your guys friendship, i have a feeling after he notices his relationship now, isn't gunna work long distance, I think he will move on to you, and I wouldn't stop being best friends, since you will notice how much you miss him, but if it would help, take a break and see if that helps, but I know this guy likes you and knowing that we were friends, and how much you have told me, you guys would be the cutest couple, and if it would make it better take a break, and see if that helps, but I know he will come to you evntually, and he will notice that the relationship he is in, isn't gunna work and he wants to be with you, well good luck Jessica
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17 years ago
by Britta
Aww! thats so sad! ok well...hmm! that’s a tuffy! You’re a great friend for telling him to go out with the other girl, that’s shows, how much you truly love him as a friend.
It’s bad the fact that you and his gf don’t get along well, but why does he like her more than you? If you’re his best friend…you’re the one he shouldn’t be able to live without!
Look…it’s a difficult decision and I know what you’re going through. Maybe try for a little while, not having much contact with him and not always being there for him when he needs you the most. Because maybe when his gf isn’t there and he needs you more than anything, you won’t be there and he will realise how much he really does need you. Its bad that he’s kinda left you for her, because the thing is…you’re the best friend who will always be there and always love him for him, but she wont…your relationships are different, and deep down you obviously do mean more to him than her, especially after a 10 year friendship. That’s something you cant just let go of, and if hes ready to let go of you for some relationship with a girl that probably most definitely wont work out in the end…then hes crazy! I think maybe you have to make him realise that he could lose you…just coz ur his best friend, doesn’t mean you have to stay around and wait for him and keep getting your heart broken over him, when there are so many other guys out there that could love you just as good…so if he cant realise what he is doing to you, then maybe he doesn’t deserve you. But think about it huni! Coz it’s a big decision, and I just hope this advice kinda helped in a good way! And if you wanna email me…you can! Coz im always willing to talk or give advice! Im sorry about everything and if I don’t talk to you…GooD Luck!
Britt XoxoX
