Parents fighting.

My parents have always seemed to be happy, and loving. Sure, they've fought like any other couple, but nothing majorly serious, ya know? But lately, they've just been fighting like it was the end of the world. And I fear that this could lead to divorce, and I don't want that. [What kid does?] Mainly because I feel as though I would have to choose who to live with, and I could never do that. My mom, is well, my mother! I cannot live without her! But I am a daddy's girl at heart, so I can't live without him [plus he is more leniant on rules lol]

Usually, I write feelings down in poetry, but this is a topic, that for some odd reason, I cannot. I do not want to force anything out, that would just frustrate me more.

Do any of you have some advice to take the stress away from this? I would greatly appreciate it.
Or, share with me stories of you, or someone you know with fighting parents, and what happened.

Thank you all. =)

Ok i know exactly how you feel i honestly do.
i dont live with my parents any more because they passed away =[
but when they were alive my mother was abbusive and my dad always fought with her to keep her away from me...the thing is sadly if they fight so much..mabey a divorce would be for the best....and as for the choosing sides....i dont think the will love u any less if u choose sides...unless they are dumb....ive been through all this and it does get better if u let it.

sorry if i didnt tell u what u wanted to hear

No no, it's fine. I need to hear as many opinions as possible.'
The thing is, I don't think a divorce is best. They are not abusive at all. I don't know, maybe it's just a rough patch they are going through.

Thank you for sharing your story, it means a lot.

Hey no problem
hmmm well if it hasnt always been like that then idk but if it starts getting to the point where they like start throwin stuff and ect lol mabey it wouldnt be so bad ya know

Yeah I understand that if it gets to the point where they can't stand each other, then yes, it would probably be best. I wouldn't like it. I figure they can work things out. I dunno.

Can I ask how you coped with your parents fighting?

Lace,

I know exactly what you're going through. My parents got divorced when I was two so I don't really remember it, but I've known my step dad pretty much all of my life. I can't remember a time without him, so he's like my real dad. Lately, my mom and step dad have been fighting so much.. and my mom always comes and vents to me, saying that she she might end up getting a divorce. I love my step dad and don't want them to get a divorce.. How do I cope with it? Usually when they're fighting I just turn on some loud music and try to drown them out. I talk to my friends to distract me.. I go on walks or play with my dogs, but it never really completely gets the fighting off of my mind. This probably isn't really helping.. >.> I hope everything works out though.

No it is, any advice I can get really helps. The taking a walk idea sounds good. Sorta get out, and clear my head.
Thank you for sharing your story, and I hope everything works out for you too.

Hey,

It pains me to hear about this, because no kid should go through divorce. My parents divorced when i was really little, i have no memory of my original family. MY dad remarried a couple years later and my mom hopped back into my life. I was four, i never understood. My stepmom and dad have raised me my whole life, and now they are fighting, cant help but think its my fault? I am moving to China to be with my mom, because I want to know what it was like. I know that this isnt much help, but if divorce gets there, be thankful for what you got. What i never had.

--Kaitlyn.

Thank you for sharing your story. I want you to know that it is NOT your fault. You have the RIGHT to know your real mom. Your step mom and day have had you all these years, it is now your moms turn.
I hope that everything works out.

I know, but its hard not to look at it like that. Because theres alot of stress now, but whatever, thats life.
Same for you...

It's hard to be optimistic in situations like these, I know. =( We'll make it through somehow.

Yeah, really. But all in all, i guess everything happens for a reason? We will, we will. =]

Yeah, but sometimes I really wish I knew what those reasons were! lol

Hahaha, dont we all. ?? lol. I dont know its like when you dont get to see the fruits of your labor. =]

Oh sorry lace i had to get off =[
ummm im not really shure what i did...i just tried to ignore it...but thats how i am ..i pretend that its not happining...witch is bad =[

Melvin, this is true, I try to pretend also, but I can't ignore it forever. =(

Jarred, this is true, I will always love them both. But it's still hard, I don't want to have to choose.

Choosing sucks, and splitting your time sucks. But i guess we all do it. But like ^^^ he said, maybe its nothing, just the time. Right now my stepmom and dad are always fighting i dont think it will lead to divorce or anything, fighting is part of a relationship.

Yea lace i know u cant do it forever...but it helps for a little while..sadly mine ended with death

I do know that couples fight, and that this may not lead to a divorce, and I sure hope it doesn't. It's just the thought that it actually could happen.
I mean, I'll be 18 in close to 4 months, and then I'll be moving out, so I won't have to really choose sides if they do divorce. I just don't want them to at all.
I guess I just really need some ways to help distract myself from it. This isn't really a topic I can write about for some odd reason, or else I would.

I remember back when my parents used to fight all the time. Mum even walked out a couple of times, threw cups at dad etc. But they are still together and this was a few years ago. If they love eachother, they will work through it.

I hope it all goes well.

Thank you. =)

No worries.

As ive said in another post.

The world challenges everyone.

Will you come out strong?

or weak.

Its your decission.

How about instead of thinking "i dont want this to happen."

Maybe you could try thinking "When this happens.... ill be ready."

You will face things 100x harder then somthing as small as a divorce, i understand being a child could tear you apart. But the truth is, divorces are way more common nowadays that you cant even imagine. Not only this with all the war going on, to be truthful. if you cant handle somthing like this, then you will need much more help with the SERIOUS issues come across.

I am a harsh person, i am actually being nice to you. If it was me thinking like this i would harm myself by calling myself so weak id piss myself off and just start punching anything around me.

As i said.

When things get rough, the tough get going.