My best friend kind of...ugh...

I was talking to my best friend (who's 14 by the way) and she was so excited. She told me she lost her virginity to this guy in school (FYI he's a player type guy) and when I said to her, "Um him? Why?" and she said "Oh, don't worry! We're not dating or anything!...ew, yuck no." and then for the next few weeks after that, she's been meeting up with randoms and acting, well, like a slut basically. And she keeps asking me to reassure her that she isn't a slut.

I just feel like, something's wrong that she's not telling me. I mean, sleeping around at 14. It's not regular behavior...right? Or am I completely blowing this completely out of proportion?

Sounds like she holds your opinion highly, so... tell her straight up that she's being a slut.. a real slutty one at that.

That should help.

14 is pretty young for sex..tell her to her face to stop being a slut.

i so totally agree my sister is 12 and she sleeps around i have been talkin to her and now she dont do it as much

It shouldnt be "regular" bahavior for 14, but sadly it is.

Talk to her and ask her why she doesnt think she is worth more than what she is telling these guys she is worth... which is nothing.

Yeah well, the thing is, a few days ago, she got really worried that she had caught something. And she was angry at him and all freaked out but, when she went to the doctor for a check up and everything was fine, she went back to the way she was acting.

And I tried the whole, "why are you doing this" thing, but, she just laughed me and goes, "cuz it's fun... you should try it!"

Hmmm.

Well no doubt sex is fun, and if she is in a monogamous (sp?) relationship then its fine, but if she is sleeping around she is at risk of contracting a disease, as she knows from scare-experiance now, and its her body, just dont follow in her naughty foot steps.

Keep in mind that the more sexual partners you have and the younger that you start having sex, especially before your body is done developing, the higher risk you have for cancer of your sexual organs and for them not to develop the right way. That is a lesser known risk of sex at a young age or just promiscuity in general. You also lose sensation and the rougher sex you have at a younger age the more it damages your sensations and the sensation that you give to your guy in the future.

whats going on with people !!!!! why everybody is soo crazy to have sex,God,most of them are really young !!! 14 ,15 ,16 ,17 ect,what is that for god's sake !!!!!!!!

you're right rua. everybody's obsessed somehow.

I mean, I can't exactly say I haven't exactly been down that road though. I've considered it but, I'm glad all i did was think about it.

Anyway, about my friend uh, no. She's definetely NOT in a monagamous relationship. She says she's just casually doing stuff without getting too involved cuz she doesn't want a boyfriend. And it's true too. For as long as I've known her, she's always dumped the guy 2 days into the relationship...

Whats her parents relationship like? Divorced, or has your friend ever been abused in any way? Sexually, physically, emotionally, mentally, verbally, etc. by a guy or man?

Well her mom and dad are great. They're absolutely perfect with each other. Her sister is more like me, who has relationships all the time but she, (unlike me) gets intimate with them. Sometimes I think my friend's trying to compete with her...that could be it...

But she, has never been hurt in her life. Not in that way. She's been lucky. She's beautiful and has a great figure and no one has ever broken her heart.

I have. And she doesn't care. She just laughed it off and is kind of avoiding me now. She's completely ditched me to be with the OTHER group (you know, the skanky girls in the school that people laugh at behind their back?). It's all right though. I feel bad that I lost her but, all i can do now is pray for her.

I know she stole my BF (ok, long story) and all but, I don't want anything bad to happen to her. She's still the best friend I had when I was little.

Give it time, keep your distance. If and when she grows up she'll know exactly how much she has hurt you and disrepected herself.

Thanks Bret. I hope you're right.

And thank you everyone else too. :)

Keep them coming if you can.