Help ...

Buy a pregnancy testing kit and give it to her to test today.

Just be there as a friend. Don't force any ideals on her, just do what friends do best, listen, understand and make tea.

o.O but be there for her when she takes and test and give her the supples for the test... and tell her everything gonna be fine..

Get a home testing kit and do it SOON. If she is going to consider abortion it could even be too late, I dont know what the laws are now.

Its really important that you support her in this hard time, because not only does she feel violated but she probably also feels like she cheated on you in some way, and its important to let her know that you dont feel like that at all. If she is pregnant are you going to be the "father" to this child? Or could you never look past that its not your kid?

Just things to think about, but just support her as much as you can. Everything will be ok.

If she does have the kid, how will that affect the relationship? If you cant look at that child every day and look at it like it is hers and a divine child of god, not a product of sin, then how are you going to be able to support her or claim to really love her?

Back to your question, You need to let her cope however she needs to, but just subtly let her know that you're open to talking about it if she needs to talk and that you love her regardless. However pretending it never happened isnt going to make the baby go away, in 8 months it is coming, whether she wants to pretend or not, so get her tested. She has to face the reality. This could (and probably will) screw up her sexual response though, I am assuming that you guys havent had sex because she is waiting for marriage, so be ready for a potentially tough road ahead.

Great outlook- shes lucky to have someone like you to help her get through this.

Sweet boyfriend :)

Thanks for letting us know.

Good luck

wow you really care about her. We need more men like you.

That's a relief! My heart was racing as i read this post. It sounds like a horrific experience and my sympathies are with her and you. You sound as if you have genuine care for her, and that touches me deeply. I hope everything turns out alright for her. I hope everything heals and mends over time. Just, do her a favor, like someone said, don't treat her like a victim, try to offer her her life back, normal as it was. It's what we all need from time to time. Thank you for sharing!!

Best regards!

~Sierra

even if i dont agree wit the whole abortion thing i am glad you were there for her and she is lucky to have you to be by her side. and i am glad everythin will be fine. good luck to both of you. :)

~~~~Xiaoyu~~~~

im glad she doesnt have aids or anything. but uh this whole abortion thing. i know its her choice and everything but heres my view on it.

1. i know that giving birth is very painful, but if this child is supposed to be born into this world, who are all these doctors to stop it from happening?

2. if she cant take care of the baby, u can always put it up for adoption. the child deserves to live a happy life, even if its not with his natural mother. and theres alot of people out there who want to have a child, but cant.

3. the child may have the dna of that stupid retarded cold-hearted psycho man but he'll be fathered my somebody who will love him and raise him right.

4. u say that u cant see this baby as a child bcuz he was created sinfully. well wut if u were a product of rape? im sorry if thats offensive but its a hypothetical (sp) question. if ur mother had had an abortion, u wouldnt be here today. hypothetically of course.

its just not right for children who were a product of rape to not seem as important as wanted children. and imagine this little baby growing up. u think its not gunna hurt him enough to know that he wasnt even really wanted or expected. just throw on top of that 'ya we were this close to having an abortion!' its injust. this child has the right to have a life and though u may have the power to take that away from him/her, it doesnt mean that its the right thing to do.

i realize that its u and ur girlfriends choice of course, but i just hope u make the right one. but then again, whos to know wut the write one is?

good luck

goooood