If he comes back (love advice)

we have all heard it, if he comes back hes yours too keep right. well this is the 3rd time hes back so I continue to be with him or should i just let it go. he says he thinks we are both ready for a serious relationship, but hes leaving for 5 monthes, and wants my full faithful support, i dont know how im supose to do this without cutting,(i just stopped b/c of him)
plus we both have secrets we're not ready to tell, both so bad we have nightmares, how do i tell him mine, and when is the time

first time he left, i wasnt mature enough for a relationship, i was only 13, second time we broke up because his friends told me he was cheating on him and we fought so much about it he broke up with me because he thought i was gonna break up with him third time he had just got out of a year relationship and realized he wanted her back. hes 17 and im 16. hes leaving for 5 monthes for training for the army. and I had some bad shit happen to me, with a friend of the family, that i have nightmare about, and he hasnt told me his yet

when he broke up with me the third time he wanted her now he wants me and now we are dating, but i dont know if we should be together or apart, and how to tell him my nightmare

lets not fight here, he didnt rape me okay, he touched me after I told him not too, hes done it more then once, does that explain it. he didnt cheat onme his friends admitted they lyed to me it doestn matter anymore, i dont think im worth his time or heart anywayz

Hun I Figured if i was outside my house he wouldnt do it eirther. i dont want to tell my b/f its just gonna make him upset to the point hell want to do something about it. I love my b/f always have I just dont think that i have the heart to tell him my past

i dont want to tell him cuz hes gonna get mad. and end up killing the dude, i just want it to go away

you really dont understand
hes been a friend of the family for years im sorry if you dont understand. I love this guy but i dont think im strong enough to actuallly tell anyone it took me a week to tell the cops and my friends told my mom because i refused to tell her when they wanted me too its too hard to face, i didnt think he would ever do that too me

hey hun,
first of all i just want to tell you that i dont know the whole story, i dont know him or even know you very well at all acctually... but i will tell you this, i kept taking back the same guy for over a year after he had cheated on me and lied to me and hurt me over and over again, because i couldnt stop loving him.. and i will also tell you that it was one of the biggest mistakes of my life to not let go of him and move on.. he didnt respect me at all, and he kept leaving me over and over, but he kept coming back every now and then because he knew i would take him back no matter what... then one day when i didnt take him back like he wanted he all the sudden didnt even wanna be my friend anymore... if hes hurt you, dont take him back... you'll regret it later... only you know the whole entire story, and only you can make the decision... and those 5 months are going to be probably the hardest 5 months of your life... i know how you feel! my boyfriend is about to leave also for the airforce, and hes gunna be gone for a while.... but i love him, so i support him %100... you gotta love him for it to work...
and another thing, you said in one of your comments that you just wanted what happened to you to go away.... im sooo sorry hun, but its not going to go away.. ever, because its real, it really happened, and it never should have happened and im sorry you have to go through that... but the best way to deal with it, is to confront it, and learn to deal with it, talk to people that you trust about it.. if you trust your bf then talk to him, you need to tell him what went on, i know he would want to help you in any way possible, and that hes only going to be sad for you, maybe angry at whoever it was, but hes not going to kill him... just please dont go through this alone.. talk to sumbody, and if u ever wanna talk, im here you can send me a email anytime.. id be more then happy to listen, a few of my friends have gone through similar stuff, and ive talked to them about it, so seriously if u wanna talk, just remeber that im here... anyways, i hope everything clears up for you! you'll be in my prayers! *KISSES*~Corrie

thanks this helps kinda. i just wish i could leave it all behind

well we may not be together anymore so it doesnt matter

ok we fixed things, if we have come this far, then i guess things were meant to be thanks for your help

brandon i didnt mean to be rude at any time in my posts. do you mind if we chat if i have a problem, and you can come to me too?

once again thanks

thanks i guess ive been freaking out alot, and got into my little suicidal stages so i was making sure i wasnt rude or anything. can you email me send me a private message or something

Im a bit confused, I have a man and its serious. whos your b/f anywayz? anyhow i dont care what you say. cuz you sound like a bitch

I didnt know brandon was your b/f and i wasnt hitting up on him. i was asking him for help with my b/f. We are having some issues. Kori i didnt mean to upset you. I was just asking for advice, k? you are welcome to help to if you like, Im just trying to make things work out. didnt mean to piss you off. so calm down gurl im not trying to take your man. Im more into dating ppl around my area. okay?

no Im fine, I hope she understands I wasnt trying to start shit

yeah. Sorry Kori!
but thanks again brandon for your help. Things are going alot smoother! You've helped alot. We kinda talked about the nightmares. but its still not out in the open yet

yeah a little bit we kinda talked about before i broke down in tears, and he goes okay we dont have to talk about it, and held me there, and told me he wasnt gonna hurt me. and your right it helped. i think it spooked him out a bit, but hes doing better

i dont think I ever will be. but i started talking to him about it. he wants me to go to his house for a night so he can see how I react to the nightmares, and see what he can do.

honestly yes. thats why he wants me to talk about them, but the bad thing is we both have nightmares. so I dont know

Kori, Im sorry if Im making you mad, but your b/f seems to be helping. Your a very lucky gurl i dont blame you for being angry. Im the same way hun. Trust me! but I dont want your man. Im happy with the one Im with we are just having personal issues. but i dont want them to get in the way of our relationship okay

he doesnt want to tell me right now. hes afraid they are gonna freak me out. but he said he'll tell me soon.

p.s. be nice to kori
i dont mind it

kori, im being nice, i dont see why you have such an issue with me. fine fuck you im out

whatever. sorry i even tried

no kori im not gonna play around like that. I'll quit talking to your b/f
bye brandon

i know how it feels to get in a fight with your b/f and im not gonna be the cause of it. thanks for your help

sorry this wasnt a very nice place to fight sorry brandon and kori

I dont want you and brandon to fight. Im just afraid that i'll lose my b/f over my nightmares.

hun you can help too if you have any adivice. and im sorry you and brandon are fighting. ill leave if you wish

bad advice is better then no advice. i hope you and brandon dont fight anymore

do you want to talk about it. i can try to help you. it would take my mind off my own

k gurlie. hope you feel better

thats fine gurlie. do what you please. you dont have to but im here too. and im sorry if it seemed like i was hitting up on your man i wasnt. im just trying to solve this whole thing before it causes major problems, or before I do something stupid

because most of the ppl know what the nightmares are. and im not comfortable talking to them about it, because it pisses them off.

thanks for your help

hey just filling you in I told my b/f! I dont know if that did any good, he kinda freaked. because the guy that did it, well was on the phone with my sis. just alot of things went wrong that night. do you think with everything going on hell stick around?