My gf is spending the night at my house this weekend.....

i have been so nervous about this so i want to be prepared. if my gf is spending the night at my house, is there a good chance were gonna have sex? ive only bought condoms once and i almost died from enbarrassment. ive always told myself to wait til marriage but i also told myself to lose my virginity to someone i love, i love her. so any advice?

Relax. Be yourself and if you have sex, it will change your relationship. Be prepared for that and the responsibility that comes from having sex.

It's wise to be prepared for any eventuality. Whether or not you two are going to have sex is something you really should be discussing with her, not a bunch of virtual strangers on an internet forum. If you have reached the point where she is ready to spend the night, then you should have also reached a point where you can mutually share open communication about issues like this in your relationship.

I don't mean any offense but if you have any doubts then you are probably not ready. I have no idea what her intentions are. But there have been plenty of times I spent the night or shared a hotel room with a guy when it was not our purpose or intent to have sex.

Lydia is right. Besides, if it is just sex and nothing more....wait until you can make love. I used to confuse the two until I met the woman I am spending my life with. There is a huge difference between sex and making love. I can't explain it but you will know the difference when you experience it.

i agree, i dont think im ready for sex. i wanted to wait until marriage but kayla is ready for it now. we have only been dating for 2 years i just dont know if its enough to give away my virginity

obviously you are unsure about it. So why do it if you aren't 100% ready to handle it plus any possible consequences?

No offense, but two years...?

Most people would expect sex to have happened LOOOOONG before then. You're pretty incredably unique to have NOT done it by that point.

The key to life is to not do anything you know you'll regret for the rest of it.

Just tell her. There ya go. There's your solution.

♥Niki

lol im the only guy i know that wants to wait to have sex. everytime i think of it i remember what my momma always told me "you know your ready to have sex when the next day you will not have an ounce of regret about it"

supaflyhonkyguy, thank you. You have restored my faith in guys. For awhile there I was beginning to think that all guys were the same : Once they hit a certain age, they lose their conscience and their sole purpose becomes trying to maul me and all the other members of the opposite sex. I'm glad to hear you were hoping to save yourself for marriage, or at least for the right person...it's exactly what I want to do. I think that you should take things slowly and carefully. And if you love this girl, and you're certain she loves you back, she'll understand you're not ready yet. If it really is true love then have faith in her, and have faith that she will understand. I hope all goes well.

It doesn't sound to me like you are ready.
My oldest son waited until he was 19...almost 20 before he lost his virginity. It wasn't with the right person & now he wishes he would have waited.
If she really loves you she will understand & wait until you are ready.

But some quality sounds man, and maybe some protein rich foods.

were going to wait. hehe im so relieved. sexual activities is what killed my last relationship. me and my last gf truly cared about eachother up until the point where all we did was sexual stuff and then well we werent even friends anymore.

That's great! I'm glad things worked out for you! :)

i say good on you!!! when people come to the point of never talking relationships go down the train... its why long distance seems to be so much more caring.. coz u can't have sex over a phone :P

Sexual Intercourse Is a Big Step Most Relationships Aren't Ready To Take, I Admire Your Strength And Wisdom To Wait *Best Of Luck And Wishes To You And Your Girlfriend* xoxo-Nikki-xoxo