Doesnt this seem a little messed up?

My mom is grounding me for not having straight A's.
I was never told I had to get them.
and I got some A's and some B's.
Am I the only one that thinks something's wrong with this?

Grounding a child for not getting Straight A's? How can you aplaud that? what if she tried her hardest? what if she just couldn't understand a couple of the subjects, or she was just not naturally good at it? Being that harsh on a kid, not only sends the message that your best isn't good enough, but makes them feel like their a failure. I get what your saying Bob, yeah she's giving her some kind of motivation to do better, but in the same sense that motivation can be devastating to a child...I mean that's your mother saying you're not good enough...If you want you child to have some motivation, you should give them something for achieving there goal, like a small reward. Need i state the result's from Ivan Pavlov's dog experiment? Who taught dog's by rewarding them with food? Or B.F Skinner who trained Pigeons to do certain things for food (food being more or less a reward). What i am saying is, if a parents wants to motivate a child to do good, don't punish them for doing there best, but instead give them something to obtain. (Just like a dog or pigeon wanting food)

Well kinda, its a little harsh..but kids these days need to be on track with there schooling today..to many drop out runing the sreets so i kinds go both ways on this...As an Bs and even some Cs are ok..but just cuz she is pushing you take is as hard love..

Avery, when you go to college and don't have to pay for it because you got straight a's through highschool you will thank your mom and realize what she did is for the best. Damn i wish I could do highschool over. I would be the biggest dork with the best grades

Yeah, it is harsh, and I get where you are coming from b/c I get the same treatement, but at least you can be proud of your grades and use them to get into a good college. It isn't really quite right for your mother to expect perfection, on that scale there is something wrong, but that is something you need to talk to with her. Are you mad b/c she grounded you or b/c you are trying and feel like she doesn't care? Talk to your mom and see if you can compromise between school and life, it's all about communication.

-Tainted Mikochan

Well, the thing is I DO try my best in school. I'm always at my house doing my homework and ditching my friends so my parents won't get mad at me for not doing well in school. I feel like my family has always had the potential or the genes to do well (straight A's, Class President.. etc), and I didn't get any of that from my parents.
It's like they can't comprehend that I do try hard and study. And this is my preformance level.
I understand where you are coming from Bob, but isn't there a point where you cross the line for too much?

I think it is wrong, some chil;dren just can't achieve straight a's and being grounded for not having them is non sense. My mom has always says she will never ask that I have straight a's but I must keep a c average. I think it is good becuase it gives me boundries but I don't have to stress my self out and mot have a life. Also by having wider boundries I think it gives adolesents less to rebel against. Face it all teens do it, so if there is less to rtebel against many won't do it, well i dont, and with those boundries i have straight a's so, grounding you for having b's I think its rediculous. But also letting you child fail and not achieve all that they can is also rediculous. I think there is a point where some cross the line, and though there does have to be one I don't think it should be and inch away from your toes.

Like my dad always says, "School is a filtering system, it tells who will succeed and who will live the rest of their lives working and in debt and getting the left over jobs."

JBN

I agree with you Jelly Bean.

but a C is nt very great. a b is acceptable, i dnt think C's r.

Some Parents Strive For Their Children To Be The Best At Everything, Mostly Its Their Grades Parents Are Always a Little Stern On, But I Feel As If Maybe Shes Pushing You To Hard And Being a Little Harsh Because I'm Sure Your Trying Your Hardest To Make Good Grades, Noones Perfect Sweety.....Maybe You Should Talk To Your Mother About It, Maybe She'll Understand How Unfair This Situation Seems To You *Best Of Luck And Wishes To You All* xoxo-Nikki-xoxo

hideshadowshine: A's/B's and a few A*s (How nerdy lol)

oh so now I'm nerdy..?
getting An A/B adverage has nothing to do with being nerdy.

grounded for not getting straight A's shit my parents paid me $20 when i got a B-

i don't know why your moms so wack about your grades... sure education is important but only if it helps your future... B is what 80ish? i never understood what the letters meant. shit your mom should be happy you could be doing drugs and failing every course like alot of people i know

plus lots of jobs like apprenticeships don't use stuff taught in school unless it's a course you picked like culunary arts or mechanics

i completely agree with your mother. Bright students (which you obviously are) not only could be getting straight a's but SHOULD be getting them if not a*'s don't waste your talent

Just to say.. Someone above said that they dont think C's are acceptable. But what happens if like my brother you are dyslexic (or however yoo spell that) and have target grades of D and even Es... what if then they get a C. Isnt that a good thing?

The grades are there so people can tell there ability and if you arnt A* ability that isnt a bad thing it might just mean that youve tried your best.

Parents should push children to obtain there potential ... but not that hard and not unfaily

Just to say.. Someone above said that they dont think C's are acceptable. But what happens if like my brother you are dyslexic (or however yoo spell that) and have target grades of D and even Es... what if then they get a C. Isnt that a good thing?

The grades are there so people can tell there ability and if you arnt A* ability that isnt a bad thing it might just mean that youve tried your best.

completely agree

Parents should push children to obtain there potential ... but not that hard and not unfaily

dissagree: it may seem unfair now but in a few years time you won't be saying that

Ok for those of you who think that grades are nothing and we should all do whatever the f we want...

I am currently attending college full time for pre-med. Yes, someday I want to be a DOCTOR! Now, I can bolow off my grades, never get a legal liscence to pratice medicine, and still treat people in the back alleys. But really, what kind of doc would I be then? Would you want me treating you if that was the case or would you want someone that paid attention in school and made the grade?

Come off it folks stop acting like it is the end of the world to expect good, no great things from those you love.

Man, if I could prescribe a good dose of common sense for our younger generation I promise you that prescription tablet would be empty in a minute!

Shame that there are so many dang fools in our society today who thinks it is ok to sit on their lazy turf and do nothing while mommy and daddy hand them everything on a silver platter...

this year i have tried my best in school but i cannot seem to get good grades. i have been struggling through depression and loosing friends but i hav terid my best. i have no A's

Yeh, That kinda is harsh, I mean If you had gotten all C's. Then Maybe it wouldnt have been that bad, I got all c's once and my mother kicked me out. And now ive dropped out of school because i just lost faith cause she never liked what i got. Although i wish she had of approached me about it a different way, Instead of kicking me out. But crap happens.

Wow some people have issues with grades! I've only ever gotten one D in an exam and that was PE becuase I sucked at theory BIG TIME. In the UK, people are getting down to grade G all the time, sure they are the ones who don't want to be in school, but some of them tried their hardest to get those grades. I am a generally A*, A and B student, but we don't have grade point averages or anything. To aaron(remo), my friend's brother is dyslexic, and once he got D's and E's for his exams, they were so pleased as he was expected to get much lower. Yeah he got a bunch of U's, but he tried his hardest and that was all that mattered!