“ Before I say good bye, I want to hear your thoughts….”

I know, and I feel that the love I have for this person, can never be replaced. He is the one I will tell myself. “ My last Love”, that’s who he is. He inspired me to change and be the best I am. In my heart I will thank him. I am not a perfect girl. I think I’m fat! Everything that I am close to being perfect at, I’m not. I really so many perfect girls for him. They are thin. They are very nice and better Christians than I am. I know that every time I am close at love I never reach it…..I love him so much, enough that it will make me happy for him to live a life loving the girl that he belongs with. In the end if I’ve lost everything: my dream, “him”, and love…..seeing him happy will still bring a smile to my face and it will warm my heart. I want advice before saying GOOD BYE….., because I promised God he would be my last….

I dont really understand what you're asking...

heres some advice start making sense ya druggie

Well first of all, stop thinking so low of yourself. Seond of all, love will come when you are older, if you're a teenager.

I hope all the best works out for you. And don't worry.. you'll find someone.

I've been given so much advice from people and I feel better of myself. Please, find some help to make you happier if you need it.

Thanks for your help

please give me more advice

Don't make any promises you can't keep. I know where you are coming from in the Christian perspective. God wants you to love and be loved. I don't exactly know the whole situation, and if you're breaking up with him or viceversa, but just trust God that He has everything under control. He has a plan for you, a hope and a future mapped out especially for you, so don't be afraid and just put it in His hands. Everything will work out for the best IF YOU LET HIM and are willing to leave it up to Him.

Don't say that those girls are better CHristians than you. No one is perfect, and God created you the way you are for a reason. You're only young; you have your whole life ahead of you and if you let God in to take control He will mold you into the person you are to become for the right time. Just accept yourself the way you are and move on. Just pray for God's wisdom and guidance.
I'll pray for you, too, if ya like =)

I know what it's like to think that you have it all under control and everything planned out, only to realize that's not how they may turn out at all. Hang in there, sweetie!!

If he truly loves you, then the most painful thing you could ever do to him would be to leave him.

No one is perfect, not even the anorexic goodie-goodies that you think he deserves.

If you're a good person you will see that. Don't break up, just go on a healthy diet, do some weight training and pray more.

And, never say never. The only truly broken heart that exists is what you get after a heart attack. But the metaphor is very good...
Don't break your heart, and his, just because you think you are being generous.
I bet he doesn't want that "favor."

//T.L.//

mari... darling i understand what you must be going through. but first of all don't disregard your personality. second, have faith in your love, your devotion. true, you can't force love on anyone but your thoughts do channel all your energy toward that person and it could transform the dynamics anytime...

please, don't feel dejected. your heart already is stressed. you need to support yourself and trust me when you are that much in love it will come back to you manifold. just stop controlling and labelling it and you will see what wonders are going to happen. think good, feel good. and yes, be strong. life is wonderful and generous to uplift your chances. just believe completely in them. all the best.

yea one thing i would say is that no matter what u should never think of your self low, because if u got the best love then that means ur not low ur thinking of them greatly placing em among the stars cause they give u that feeling of love to keep in ur heart, so ur not a low person... i mean love hurts.. we all know that, but that doesn't mean we say we're not worth living our lives for our selfs u know? try to think positive and not too much of the pain cuz the more u think of something that bothers u the more u get worse, only YOU yourself can get out of a situation like this.

and when it comes to God he is all knowing and he is watching, remember that, promises can be broken, tho i understand that u saying he's gonna be ur last love.. sure that could be cause love is pure u can never forget someone u love so dearly.
and another thing is that sometimes one of the best things that u think u have lost maybe arent the most bestest things u kno y cuz maybe it's for the best and that God may have something even better u just need to let the course of nature and time to step in... and if u truly love someone u will
also learn to control ur self even if it hurts, u'll have
some sort of strength to let go.. it's hard but
u can.. unlike those who kill their selves that's just
the easy way out, and not the best way out cuz
that's just stupid from my prospective.. anyways
yea that's all lol... hope things get better for u
believe me i know what it's like to be in love
and get hurt.. many times.. but hey it's life.

thanks again

Don't you put yourself down like that. Everyone on this is earth is special, whether they admit it or not. Weight shouldn't even matter. Be happy with who you are.

As for being better christians. That's not right to say. If you belive and God, and have him in your heart, then nobody is better. Every follower of christ is equal. Don't give up on love because you have a distorted image of yourself. Be happy to be who you are. You are just as good as all those girls you say are better.

You're saying "Goodbye" to someone who has changed you, yet you still think you are fat. It's sad to hear he has tried so hard to help you, and you have not yet change. He did it for a reason. Not because he want's you to become skinny, but he wants you to see yourself, for you who are. I'm sure a guy like that wouldn't give up a great girl, to be with a skinny girl. You threw away a guy that loved you for all the right reasons. I'm surprised he didn't give up on you for being so stubborn. Weight is just a number, just as people say age is just a number.

"A person's physical appearance does not out weigh their personality." - Darien

^^^Agreed :-)

dont cut yourself down.

thanks for all the advice...
need more..

Its understandable to feel, what you call, "unworthy" of a person. There are many, many incredible people out there, but you have to remember; just because they are wonderful doesn't make them "perfect." You seem to be the type of person who, not neccisarily idolizes, but puts this person up on a pedestal. You see the greatness and potential in the people around you, and thats great! But because of this, you tend to only see the faults in yourself.

Do you honestly believe that this person deserves someone 'thinner!?' He obviously doesn't care about that.
And how do you know he wants a 'better christian?' Let me tell you; don't use that as an excuse! It's completely ridiculous.

He is only with you now because you are absolutely what he wants. Think about it; if he didn't, wouldn't he have left by now?

Don't make that kind of foolish mistake. You might feel like you're doing the best by sacrificing yourself, feeling like a martyr for the one you care about.. but you're really not. You'll be miserable for a very very long time, and in the end you will be the only one who gets hurt.

Just enjoy eachother and when/if the end comes for you to let go, let it be graceful.

Isn't it annoying how you compare yourself to others and make yourself seem less...? You are a wonderful person; I'm sure a lot of those thin or perfectly Christian girls are nothing like you! Who really cares? Please read this quote:

"Love isn't about finding the perfect person... it's about seeing an imperfect person perfectly."

if he is so awesome, why can't you make a move? does he have another girl? does he not know how he changed you?

it's amazing how love transforms all... if he really is your last love, why don't you get him? tell him how you feel... write him a poem ;) a very romantic skill acquired from P&Q!

None of us can ever be perfect... I got this part from the Bible:

"Jesus was the only perfect person in the world"

:-) still not convinced?

some dreams DO come true; just find the magic words :)

If it's because of looks, that's quite shallow... at one point, we all judge others by looks at least once... but it's different when you look deep inside.

Deep inside you, in the tender pits of your heart lie the answers you seek... and a heart that isn't cold is full of love... which would make you very nice, especially to him!

If he's your guy, why let him get away?

~Rain

... whats the biggest problem out of all of this?

o... and if ur dating him, great job =)

Just tell him how u feel and be open about it...