First Time

Well...Since NO-ONE knows me on this site I need some help...My friends will just laugh at me if I told them but I have never had sex. Me and my boyfriend are going on holiday this year I mean we are in seperate rooms but we both know it will hapen while we are away..he hasnt slept with anyone either and I don't wanna f*** it up ...to put it bluntly. I just dunno like I dunno...I guess I am just scared that it will destory our friendship and I just need basically some words of wisdom from people...I know laugh at me all you want but I really do just wanna make sure the first time doesn't wreak our relationship.

You're 15, right?

Why do you think it's stupid that you haven't had sex?

And if ya'll are going out bf/gf, is there a friendship to actually lose? You guys are together, and just breaking up could lose your friendship...

Maybe I'm not making any sense...

But good luck

16...So it isnt like I am breaking the law. lol. it is stupid because all my friends have done it and they think I have done it because I am a fool and to stupid to say I am a virgin thank you very much. there is a friendship to lose...I mean I have been friends with him for longer than I can recall and we have now been going out for 8 months...I mean kissing him was weird at first because of the whole friendship thing but yano you get used to it and now there so much more to get used to and I don't wnna wreak everything we have got together over something so trival in my eyes.

I feel ready I just....I am just abit worried not unsure i mean I KNOW deep down that I am ready just. I have known him for so long I don;t want to it fuck up and for us to not talk I mean I know when the time is right it will happen because that what everyone says but I don't want the timing to be perfect and for me to think FUCK this is gonna wreak everything...The only way I will know is if I talk to him abou it isn't it. OMG for once I have told myself to do something and it actually makes sense!!!

Don't do it. Trust me.

You say that you're worried that the time will be right and you won't know....Well what if you do end up doing it, and it's not the right time? Trust me, hun. A friend of mine went through this, too. She ended up freaking out, but he convinced her that they would be okay, and they ended up having sex more than once even after she told him she didn't want to anymore. He was just using her. It was the last thing anyone had suspected because they had been together for a whole year and they hadn't even kissed yet. Then suddenly everything jumped forward...I don't know hun...you're boyfriend may be a saint, but that doesn't mean that you are ready... And don't feel like you have to just because your friends are. Hopefully this makes any sense...

"Well you DO have doubts. Which means you're not ready. Don't do it."

Exactly. The slightest little is enough to say you're not ready. The time will be right when you're 100% sure about every aspect of it.

hey whoa... you're 16!?! are you sure you're ready to do this?!

I agree with EDDIE GARCIA. I did it way to young. There may seem like there is a lot of pressure in it, but no matter what. Don't. If you both feel it is right, then sure, but don't if for any other reason. Cause you will regret it.

well alot of people have sex when or because they are emotionally unstable, when the truth is that you need TO BE emotionanally STABLE for things to go okay. and honestly its almost immpossible for someone who is 16 to be able to have that in a relationship. i mean it can happen, don't get me wrong, but it most likely doesn't.

i know i'm kinda confusing hope you get what i'm saying.

anyone else agree?

I know what your saying Jeffery but truth is you think you ARE emotionally stable till you do it, he dumps you and then you have regrets.

Fact is make this decision based on your own merits and beliefs if its what feels right for you then do and if you have any doubts then dont. Dont listen to the thoughts, opinions and beliefs of others...listen to your own heart and mind and make the choice based on yourself. At the end of the day you will only have to answer to you and your God should you be religiously inclined.

my god I never thought This many people would try and help i mean I just posted it expecting one or two people...But so many people seem to care *weird* I mean It is more than just a friendship I love him...I love him so much it aches when i am not with him when we talk on msn I just wish he was actually there talking to me...today I just sat and stared into his eyes for about ten minutes and I stroked his hair and just looked at him I mean we share something I can feel it...but I admit it I am scared I am scared to sleep with him but who isn;t...Who isn't when hey are getting undress and wondering what the other person is thinking...I mean listening to peoples opinions made me realise that nothing that anyones says can change what will happen and if it happens I wanna let it because I know deep down I am ready I just am scared of what will come afterward. I love him so much and he desevres to know how much I do love him and I wanna show him how much I say I love you enough times to him but I wanna show him he has never talked about it with me before but we both know deep down that it will happen and i want it to. I wnat to love him forever, I love him.

My god look what happens when you start to cry and write very fast. Erm..Well ya no.

and yes kristen it is me...My how I have grown eh. lol. Email me and tell me your address now cause I havn't spoken to you for AGES writing was fun!!

just don't do it !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! it is better to wait untill you are older by then you will be more really for it and all the things that come from it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! please just wait!!!!

xoxo linda xoxox if you need any help or just want someone to talk my aim is love_sucks1506 i am almost always on line

Your Too Young, 16 Is No Kind Of Age To Have Sex No Matter Whether Its The Legal Age Where You Live Or Not...I Was Rapped When I Was a Pre-Teen, And I Wish Everyday Of My Life I Could Have It Back Because I Felt Like I Lost a Part Of My Innocence....It Dosen't Feel Good Hun It Hurts Really Bad And If You Guys Ever Break Up Your Going To Regret Him Being The One You Gave It To Trust Me I've Been Through This...Heres a Verse From One Of My Favorite R&B Songs That Give Good Reasons Why You Shouldn't

Sex-Lyfe♥
Eh yo Lyfe, she may take it better coming from a woman (Give it to her)
See he’ll tell you all kind of things to get in your pants, yeah
Baby it’s a fact, that once it’s gone you’ll never get it back (never get it back)
Hold on, to your innocence
Use your common sense
You’re worth waiting for (You’re worth waiting for)
Be strong
Honey don’t give in
Blessing come with patience
Until we meet again, I’m praying, for you

Boy You Should Listen-Nicole Ray♥
Mama Always Warned Me About Boys Like You
She Said That All You Wanna Do
Is Run Over Me Like Shoes
And Try And Take Me To Your Crib Trying To Talk Something Sweet
Be The First To Run Tell You Took My Virginity
But I Know I'ma Hold Out Till I Know About Love
Kisses And Hugs
I'm Sure That That'll Be Enough
If You Just Wait I'm Gonna Give It To You
Before I Do
This Is What I Want You To Do

*Another Part*
All The Other Girls
They Are As Grown As Me
Seeing All The Stuff They've Done
They Wanna Know About Me
I Tell Them About Me And You
How We Be Holding Out
And No Matter What They Say
Gone Show Them What Love Is All About
So When We Finally Do Our Thing
Is Gonna Be Fine Like Wine
Ooh Take Some Time To Make Sure Its Right

age does not define maturity, wait till you are both mature enough and not because all your friends have done it. trust me im talking from experience i wish i had have waited i was too young and it meant nothing, wait till you are both ready, you will know when that time is, theres no rush

i have no opinion on this, i just wanted to throw in that a couple of my friends who were dating had sex and broke up and i can see how much it hurt the guy, but it's your choice and no one elses. so if you make the choice, be able to b fully comfortable with your decision before either of you act upon it.

Alex, there is nothing wrong with no having had sex at your age. I respect young teens who are still a virgin and wait until they are older.
IF you are sure about your relationship with this person, then I wouldn't worry so much. However , it seems to me you are more into a friendship then real dating. That is what I understand of your post. I think you really need to sit down and think about this. Thinking which way you wanna go! Good luck with whatever you decide and have a wonderful trip!