What is a Spark???

What is a Spark???

In relationships, love, is there such a thing as a spark, and if so what is it, how would we define it? We’ve all heard people involved in happy romantic relationships say that there was an instant spark between them, that the first time they looked into each others eyes or kissed sparks flew, and we’ve also heard from people who tried to have romantic relationships that fizzled say there was just no spark, so I asks again, just what is a spark, and how do you know when one is there? What denotes a spark for one or between two, just what are the, its signs???

Question 2:

How would you say a spark relates to Compatibility, and what impact does it have upon it?

Question 3:

Is a spark an important factor for a long term romantic relationship, if you're involved with someone, but there's no eletricity/magic there does it matter? Can a romantic relationship exist simply on mutural admiration and reverence (respect) for one another, or does there have to be more?

A raging desire to be with the person you are attracted to. You want to talk with them, spend time with them and when together, you touch (hold hands, kiss) and savor every moment.

The Italians describe it as a thunderbolt....Michael Corleone felt it in the Godfather, when he went to Sicily. It feels as if you are struck by a thunderbolt.

I've had it happen from the beginning....never after I've known them for a long time (unless alcohol was involved and that was not a spark...just....well, you get the picture).

I think its when you look into that persons eyes and it feels like a magnet drawing you ever closer to them,when you can`t resist a slight touch when their near you,when they are on your mind constantly, thats a spark! to me anyway.

I can't speak, struck dumb,
I'm all fingers and thumbs
Don't know why, but you're cool
Better not move at all.

I remember seeing a girl at a Bill Bailey show who left me literally dumbstruck. My stomach fell fifteen feet and I couldn't speak. I managed to pluck up the courage and speak to her later and she felt the same thing.

That, to me, is the spark.

Another question, how would you say a spark impacts compatibility?

To me, a spark is that inkling of a notion. Just a tad that peaks your curiosity. That compells you to seek an inclination of your destiny.

I don't think it has anything to do with compatibility. You may find that a spark may peak your curiosity, but may not hold your interest.

If that is what you meant.

Happiness
Jeannie

Interesting very interesting...

I don`t know ,I think that incredible yearning is necessary, why would you even want to be compatible with someone if the magic wasn`t there. we all crave that magic or spark if you`d rather call it that don`t we?

'Sparks', whilst they may exist according to some people are merely a fictional concept created by a mind. They have no impact on a relationship, and then need a new name...spark thats a stupid word.

Well it is pretty obvious that Lenny has never felt a spark

Another question, how would you say a spark impacts compatibility?

It doesn't affect compatability totally. Although sparks are created in the subconcious, it only represents a physical attraction from what I have experienced. So even when both parties feel that same spark it is still only on a physical level.

Still, that's a bloody good starting point.

That is also a good point. We are superficial!

I think the "spark" is a combination of seeing someone who looks exactly how you feel, and is also attractive, though I guess for the kind of feelings decribed above, it's mostly in the face with expressions...so maybe the spark is about recognition of oneself in the face of another.

Or maybe it's just the breasts....

As for it being linked to compatibility, hmm. You'd think that being naturally inclined towards someone from the start, without words even, would then make it rather easy to be in a relationship with them. Tt certainly is with my lassy, we both knew the second we clapped eyes on each other that we'd be horizontal before long.

Or it could be some subconscious genetic recognition reaction...like your brain interprets the person you are looking at as a good breeding opportunity and ignites a "spark" in your head so you'll be inclined to mate and continue the species...

Or maybe you guys should stop watching Tv so much eh?

A spark in my own thinking is the forming passion between two people. To me what denotes a spark is it's crossing from lust to love. When a person sees another, they are entranced by what the five senses in many ways show them. If someone is psychically attractive, then the eyes would be a conduit to feeding the spark…

The first signs would be the initial rapport between two people, and a kind of empathic knowing of what to do next, and where to go next.

For the second question, I would simply ask what is compatibility but someone having a empathic rapport with someone. So to put it bluntly, yes…

The third question may be a simple one, yet I haven’t seen evidence supporting it. I would say that the spark may be a foundation in which passion can turn to love.

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"They say beauty lies within and all that...but lets face it, without physical attraction, romantic love is almost 99.99% BS."

Yes, attractiveness (physical Attraction) does matter. I would agreee.

Intellect, Personality, Good Heart, Depth of Soul, these are things you want a perspective mate to have, but Looks, still, do matter!!! Physical Attraction weighs heavily, as a factor!!! Shallow, although it may seem, it is the Nature of Attraction!!!

As to my question this is an answer I got that I found interesting and profound;

"Spark can be physical chemistry - a physical, sexual desire for each other.

Spark can be intellectual chemistry - a mental connection you share in sense of humor, interests, and conversation.

Some kind of spark is often important to get people together, to notice each other, but it's not enough to keep people together, especially if it's only physical chemistry.

Spark can develop over time even if it wasn't there initially, especially in work or other situations where you see someone often and get to know them, especially if one or both of you are shy or quiet. You can start to appreciate their qualities and sense of humor or whatever over time and that can create spark.

In relationships where love doesn't develop over time, if the spark fizzles, then you've got nothing to keep the relationship going.

In a relationship where love develops, spark comes and goes depending on what's going on between the two of you at any given time.

Signs of spark...you know when you feel it. You can't always tell if someone feels it for you, especially if they are naturally friendly and outgoing (or for physical spark, are really into having sex regardless)." -- Nora Jane

What do you think of her ovservations? Does she have some valid points?