Could it get any worse??

The answer is yes.
I've spent the last few months thinking I had the worst life a teenager could ever have. I mean I HAVE been through a lot of really bad stuff.
But I was thinking today and I reallized I have it pretty good! I have a decent house (ie four walls, roof, heating) and my own room that's just my style, a warm bed. I have two parents who care about me (even if they don't know how to show it). I have a good job- my own money... the list goes on
I just wanted to say PEOPLE STOP FEELING SORRY FOR YOURSELF- IT GETS YOU NO WHERE.

I agree with you.
I know I been through a lot. But I also know that their are people out there that have it worse than me.

:Sarah:

amen to that

you know what, yes it can get worse, but that doesn't mean that you don't have to feel sorry for yourself every now and then. it keeps you human. self pity is one of the most natural things. Some people just take it too far...

I agree with you, enjoy what you have and stop whining about what you don't have. But yet, it can get a lot worse for people but who are we to sit here and feel sorry for ourselves and smile when we see those starving children that have no homes or family or money? I feel horrible for them..

i agree with the self pity one, although i do agree with -this-.

i'm not really sure how telling people they could have it worse on here is going to put any positivity in their life because they come here for advice on the problems they have currently; comparing their lives to starving children in africa isn't really going to make them think "well hey, the fact i got raped and my brother abuses me and nobody at school likes me is all okay now, because i live in a warm house with parents" now is it?
i agree with it, but i don't really agree that it's appropriate for here.
x

good to know some people are thinking clearly!

so true.

People in the third world are exploited every day, children are sent to brothels to be raped, childrens arms and legs are sut off so they can beg for their masters and look more pitteous, life could be so much worse, sometimes its just hard to see =s

xxx

BANGBANG,

I didn't put that there for advice, if the poster needed advice, I wouldn't have said that..I'd try to help the best that I could. And for the record, I was raped that's how I lost my virginity, my parents do hit me, I've seen my brother try to kill himself, my sister is getting abused by her boyfriend but she won't leave him, and my Dad never comes around anymore cuz he stays in the hospital goes out on day passes and does crack...but I don't sit here and feel sorry for myself, I feel selfish for doing that because there are so many people that have it worse off. That is what I meant by my Africa comment. It isn't really fair for me to be sitting here and complaining about stuff like that when other people can't afford food or a warm house or any of that stuff; so sorry if what I said doesn't help someone, but she never asked for advice...I was agreeing with the poster.

erm. lush.. fcuk..

you have a RIGHT to get upset about things that are troubling you. how is it in anyway selfish for you to feel upset about problems you have, just because somewhere, someone is worse off than you, when there isn't anything you can do about it? yes you have it better off, but this is your life not theirs, you have to care about the problems you have otherwise they wouldn't be YOUR problems. if your mum died, you'd cry, you wouldn't sit there feeling guilty that somewhere somebody didn't have a roof over their head when there wasn't anything you could do to help that.
yes maybe there are starving children in africa, but that doesn't lessen the importance of your situation. i'm not saying you should sit there and feel sorry for yourself, that does nothing. but you can respect your own problems just as much as you do theirs, without having to feel 'selfish' yours aren't AS bad. and anyhow, a lot of the people in sayyy africa are happy, when people in cities or places like UK/USA, yes have problems, and are miserable. there's no comparison to be made between yours and somebody elses problems, all problems are unique and personal to YOU, and you shouldn't feel bad on somebody elses behalf. they won't jump in out of the blue and say hang on a minute you can't have problems i'm worse off than you. it doesn't work that way. we all have emotions and we'd all get upset being in your situation, you can deal with it without the stress of the whole worlds problems on your shoulders.

anyway forget the whole advice thing, i'm too tired to say anything on that.

oh and life is nothing, i'm not arguing.
kthanks.
x

what about it?

BANGBANG,

I know I have a right to get upset about it, I'm saying it's the feeling sorry for myself and wishing I had it easier part of the bad days that I have that are selfish. But you are right, If my Mother died I would feel sad, I wouldn't think about that but that wasn't my point. You do make very valid points, I was just saying that if someone that takes the time to look around can realize what they have RIGHT NOW in their life...like money, food, a home, friends, a boyfriend/girlfriend; and then sit there and wish for more, it just doesn't feel right when I, personally do that.

And life is nothing, I wasn't arguing, I was stating what I meant in my statement.

omg its *Ethiopia* sorry I'm a spelling loser...and there are more places than ethiopia and africa...like asia (thailand, china, vietnam, cambodia, etc.) and central america (mexico, nicaragua, panama, honduras), and the caribbean (haiti, jamaica, dominican republic)...lets not discount all those. and also...I don't believe you can discredit your pains because of other people, its just important to realize that you can't dwell on the past forever and that there always is worse. EVERYONE hits low points and nobody's low point demands more attention than someone else's. my personal opinion, anyways, dont slaughter me for it.

Indubidoubly.

Just a note on Ethiopia and all the other African countries for that matter (most of which you probably don't even know exists), what is the point of pitying these people, but doing nothing about it? Worst is, they thrive off your pity. They will never get out of their situation, because they know that someone will always be looking out for them, bringing them food and clothing. They have no will to do things for themselves. trust me, I live in Africa. i know what I'm taking about. i see it every day...

P.S please do NOT think that i am this heartless bitch, I just look at things through different eyes...

That was a stupid question. It wouldn't work if it was...

And Endlessly,

I do do stuff to help some people there. Ever since I was ten it's been my goal to try and help someone there at least once every few months...

I just think that counting your blessings is beneficial to your mental health.
We all have issues but it's how we deal with them that makes the difference.

Uh, Life is Nothing

There are places in Africa that are a bit more civilised than others. For example, South Africa. We have everything a normal country has (except law and a decent government).

Although, if I had to choose, I'd probably choose a stump - Would hat to, have to either keep running from the lion or having to chase after him to keep my computer plugged in.

And well done to you for, Lush.Fcuk,
supporting the people up there. I'm glad you feel that you're doing good. But honestly, they don't need it. As I said before, they thrive off your pity and handouts. They'll never start providing for themsleves... Why don't you rather send something to an animal shelter (if you don't already) Animals need your help more than any human...

Things can always get worse and feeling sorry for yuorself will get you there. i live in the "ghetto" of los angeles so i have seen alot of crap and i live in an apartment with a crackhead no heating or cooling no tv just a radio. and i use to feel bad for the homeless druggies sad ppl but now i dont cuz most of them never tried to do anything they jst gave up.

^^

I agree. My father is on crack and we have asked him to get help but he won't. He leaves for months with no contact and than when he's out of money so his "friends" steal his belongings to pawn them to get his money that he owes them, he calls us looking for sympathy. I used to feel sorry for him. But now it's just getting old.

Depression should be marked out of everyone's vocabulary.

Depression will always be in the mind, no matter the happiest person you know...they may be going through more than you think and are just faking hwo happy they seem. So I have to agree with painfilled, it will still be in the mind even if it is out of the vocabulary.

"PEOPLE STOP FEELING SORRY FOR YOURSELF- IT GETS YOU NO WHERE." - I'll try not to feel sorry for myself now..

I agree.

Life goes on, deal with it.

Easier said than done.

I'm sure that people that sit there in pity and cut themselves annoy a lot of people, no scratch that, I KNOW that they do...but they're at an all time low, their minds are clouded and they feel they have nothing left. There are many reason people do it. Some not even just because they are depressed and feeling sorry for themselves, some do it for the thrill or to feel alive. And not only people that are sad cut themselves, even the happiest person you know may be a cutter.

Yes, there are worse situations out there, but as someone said to me, I do believe it was in this thread actually, you feel sorrier for yourself because it is you that feels the pain, you can't feel the other peoples like the homeless, pain...you feel your own and sure you can see their pain, but you can't relate to it by seeing it.