Secret

Hey all of you beautiful people. i have a problem.
I have a deep secert and i've been keeping it to my self for 5 year i think. it's really hurtful and i know it will make my family's heart. it's about beeing sexualy abused and i don't want to tell them. I know it's been a long time but i can't seem to tell them. Should i came clean or keep it? i don't want to hurt the people i love. any advice?

ThX

Wow hun. You need to tell someone. Family of course because their FAMILY. Start off by telling the family member closest to you. Dont fake the funk, but tell every detail. If you cry it helps, because it lets them know its really real. Im not saying pretend to cry, but crying grabs their attention. It may seem very hard, but trust me when I say, it will feel 28759354230707201099 times better than letting it build up. Good Luck. & reply with the conclusion. Hope this helps!

Tell, luv.

Wait, is the abuse still going on?!!

Either way you definitely need to tell them. They're you're family, no matter what they're going to love you, none of it's your fault?

You must tell as soon as possible. Its really an offense

Tell them. not only will it bring it out, but it will make you feel better to have it off your chest and to finally have someone to talk to about it. and if you're not ready to tell your family, go to someone else like a counceler or youth pastor....someone.
don't be afraid. God is with you.

If you don't feel ready to tell your family, tell a couselor first. There is help available to you.

Keeping something like this to yourself for the rest of your life will destroy you. Tell someone. Now.

Telling would show real courage.
Sexual abuse is something that most people keep hidden but you have to think... has keeping it hidden form people helped you at all? Has it comforted you? Has it bought relief to you?
Telling osmeone will help you. Youve probably kept it all in so much, talking to soemone about it you will find comfort and relief.
You wont hurt the poeple you love. This wasnt your fault.
-Hugs-
x

You Definitely Need To Tell Someone I Cant Believe You've Even Kept It a Secret That Long I've Been There Myself And The Only Way To Really Feel Better Is To Vent...And Just Posting This Already Shows a Big Step In Admitting That You've Been Abused.....I Must Say That As Humans Everyone Of Us Will Go Through Something Before We Die...But Its Not What You Go Through Its How You Look At What You Go Through That Matters...And If You Don't Talk To Someone And Get Some Relief Which Will Help Alot...Things Wont Get Any Better...Plz Talk To Someone

xoxo-Nikki-xoxo

Just

TELL

Ok well my friend had the same problem with her uncle. She even talked to a good mentor lol with a degree and it was clear she was sexually abused but when she told her parents about her uncle... they wouldnt believe it in fact they still dont. You must tell... even if you dont think its neccessary think of how your family would want the information

Hun, I know from experience, its not easy to tell your family. I've never told my family. I don't want to. But if you need help you need to tell them.

I think it is up to you...If you want to keep it to yourself...Do it...

If the man does abuse again, is it your fault...Nope.

But I will say this, chances are he may do it to someone else...And chances are he may not. Maybe he repented...Who cares.

But it is your choice what you do with this secret, and no one else can force you to do something you're not comfortable with.

I think its up to you but personally, i dont think its healthy to keep it inside. The only thing i can say is that it would take tons of courage to do so and it your own choice.

Tell someone you trust, and care about

I know how you feel becasue I'm in the same situation. It's just so complicated because I feel like I've supressed the memories. I don't want to look stupid in front every one so I have to 1st confront my past because it comes back little by little. Someone who knows for sure. But yeah... tell. Scream it through the rooftops.

I cant say i know how u feel because i dont but by similar situations i think you should deffinatley tell someone. that person needs to be put in jail for what he did to you, and before they do it to someone else

Tell them and stick with Nike "Just Do It".

The funny thing is that it's hard to tell your parents or loved ones, and easier to keep it to yourself, getting over it and living your life.

But fact is that in this day and age, where we constantly monitor our children, we forget that it is those closest to us that does the most harm rather than "stranger"...

To them rather than breaking their family apart, it's best to keep their mouth shut...And frankly it's up to them...

They need time to get over the shock that has come through them, and rather than say "Tell your parents"....One should say "Seek professional help to sort out with the issues that have scarred you..."