My friend got raped. How can I help her?

My friend just told me that she got raped by a guy that already has a kid. And this guy is in highschool, and doesnt care about the kid. She said they didnt use protection and now shes really scared thats shes gonna get pregnant. Im really scared too. Cuz if she does get pregnant, her mom is gonna kick her out of the house and her life will be all messed up. The guy does this to a lot of people, hence the kid he already has. On top of all this, the same friend has taken up smoking again. She started last year when ehr boyfriend pressured her into it, now tht tht ex-boyfriend has moved away and stuff....she ahs taken it up again. She said she has felt stressed out lately and thats why. I dont want her to do this, its really not good for you. And I wanna give her advice on all this but I dont know what to say.

I know how it feels to have someone you care about get raped. The first and most important thing is to turn that guy in. If not, this mistake will just keep repeating itself.

As for helping your friend... just be there for her. Listen to her when she talks and hold her when she cries. Maybe even convince both your and her parents to let you two take a trip together. Go do something fun. Get some fresh air and help her take her mind off her troubles.

And as for smoking, it really isn't healthy. She knows that too. When she goes to get a cig give her a peice of gum instead?

No, that's why they call it RAPE

^^^(kerry) that is what I was pondering myself

There is a difference between rape and changing your mind AFTER you made a bad decision.

No she was trying to fight him off. And he pulled her back......he grabbed her arm...dragged her...and stripped her......

Really ..
I'm shocked someone would need to ask what to do in this situation.

1st (and foremost) - Phone the Police Immediately! Get this guy behind bars. Alternatives also include a rather large man in the family paying said person a visit with a crooklock.
2nd - Get pregnancy tested Immediately! There is no point living in fear about whether mom is gonna kick her out if she isn't pregnant.

If you do not inform the police after these types of attacks.. you are part of the problem with sexual predators .. not part of the solution.

~Pete.

[Edit]
I've just re-read my post (it comes across as a bit rude) - I mean no offence by what I said .. I'm just shocked someone would need to know what to do. This doesn't take knowledge, or experience, or intelligence to know what to do. This is common sense.
Again - sorry if I offended.

No offence but HOW STUPID COULD YOU GET????? you HAVE to go to the police and tell them what happened

Honestly, its pointless now. This is what infuriates me about rape and this is the one point where I get irritated with the victim. I know that sounds horrible but I know its horrendous and scarring but thats why you MUST go to the police RIGHT AWAY.

Going to the police now will help them get the guy, but it will be VERY difficult to stick charges unless she gets pregnant (which hopefully she won't!). It can be hard to get proof in these sorts of situations and a lot of cops will ask you why didnt you come in earlier.

*sigh*

"You were murdered not me, so I wont go to tthe police, I'll leave that up to you"

Knowing that this isn't the first time this apparently happened to some girl with the same guy, means someone needs to do something. My friend could hate me if she wanted, eventually she would come to understand. If the story is true someone has to go to the police. I was in that situation once too and the best thing my friend ever did was make me go to the police, stand up for myself and take control of the situation. The last thought running through her brain would have been to get on some message board.

I don't agree with Emma at all

I know you have suffered through a lot, but the fact of the matter is if the victim doesn't want to go to the police, they're acting selfish, because rapists often repeat their actions. I know its hard, but its not fair to themselves or anyone else that the person who did it gets off scott-free.