Losing virginity, aren't you afraid?

For some girls:
how can you trust your boyfriend with with your virginity, i mean aren't you afraid that he might leave you anytime? what if he did, do you think you will have a big chance to find a another guy?
ratio of girls are much higher than guys all over the world. even virgin girls have difficulties to find a guy so how about someone who lost her virginity.

seriously girls, how many of you lost her virginity to someone she is not with him now?
i read topics about"your first bf.." or "non-virgin.."
so you might end up losing your virginity to the first guy or secondor..etc
poeple and even girls don't care about a guy had a sex with another girl that much but for a girl to lose her virginity it's something else.
you girls have something so valuable that you only could give to your life partner(husband)
the main difference between a husband and a boyfriend in my point of view is the right of having sex. so what's the point of getting married if you can do everything that a husband can do for you with your borfriend?
for me personally i will NEVER marry a girl that lost her virginity on her own because it's something so valuable that you can only give for your husband.)
it's not a lecture but an advice to you all.

I... think a guy's virginity is just the same "value" as a girl's. Men also have "something valueable that they can only give once." I'm really bothered by this double standard.

I agree with some of what you say, like that people should take more care when it comes to entering into sex, but then to say that if you have sex: "do you think you will have a big chance to find a real guy?" is just pretty dumb. If a guy has sex, would you say "do you think you will have a big chance to find a real girl?" I think a "real" guy would either a) be guilty of it himself, b) get over it, if she regretted it, or c) get over it, even if she didn't regret it. A real guy will love the girl he's with - as a whole person, not as simply a "virgin."

I mean, if you only want to marry a virgin, that's certainly your choice. But not all girls are in the race to become housewives, where the chaste win over the easy, mm? (Please say that you are a virgin yourself....)

Lol i know i will be attacked anyway
first i 100% agree with the term that guy's virginity is the same. second i made a mistake there when i said "real guy" and i will edite it. finally, yes i am a virgin and won't give my virginity only to my wife.

That's better : )

You think the difference between marriage and being in a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship is sex. That's wonderful, but I disagree. Marriage includes tax benefits, all possessions are legally shared unless there is a prenuptial agreement involved, insurance benefits, and I think marriage essentially says, "I want to be with you 'forever.' I want to have kids with you, share everything with you, and grow old with you." Boyfriend/girlfriend relationships are less serious on a legal stand, as well as emotional. You're really trying people out until you find one you're willing to settle with. Notice my word choice, hahaha. Marriage also involves a wedding, honeymoon, and rings...which can all be pricey.

It's nice that you place so much value on virginity, but really, the first time with anyone is very special. At least, it should be. I was not a virgin when I first had sex with Jeff, but it was still very special, romantic, and memorable for us both.

Exactly why I said, "I want to be..." instead of "I will be..."

Read what I write a bit slower, because I usually choose each word carefully.

Oh so what if you fell head over heels man? You still wouldn't marry her if she was drunk one night years and years ago and a guy took advantage of her?
Guys have something special too. It's called peace of mind for the lady. I doubt she would like having to wonder if she's as good of a partner as some other tramp her husband banged.
Personally I am going to wait for my wife but if she had already had sex I would not hold it against her. People DO get carried away.

Hmm. im still a virgin. and plan on it till marriage. so im not really worrying about it right now cuz im still young =p

Me 2 still young fresh and still virgin :). and i'd now want to giv away unless it happens accidently.

it's religious for us but like some said up there.

but as sum said already marrige doesn't mean forever togeather.

idunno wat's so different abt losing it or still having it?. because u'r still the same ain't u? belive me a girl who had done it and haven't done it yet still makes no difference except the done one no'z how to do it. lol.

if u fell in head over hills for a person and u soon no dat dat person is like not a virgin willu still giv up? if you do dan i dunno wat to say?.. co'z i dun think there's ani difference as i said b4 jsut dat the done one no'z how to do it and the haven't tried one doesnt.

*finally breaths out*

SshH
-SECRET"

To Jane,
what do you mean marriage means "I want to be with you 'forever,I want to have kids with you, share everything with you, and grow old with you." Boyfriend/girlfriend relationships are less serious on a legal stand"

so boyfriend/girlfriend relationship means "i just want to play with you for a while"?
and what about when a girl says "my boyfriend is evrything to me and i won't to be forever with him huh?
so I want to have kids with you, share everything with you, and grow old with you."
so Boyfriend/girlfriend relationships are less serious? i never new that when you sleep with someone and having sex with him in your own will that consider less serious, so you were just having fun?
and if you talking about kids, many people now adays having kids without marriage

For sherry,
yes nobody asked me for an advice but usually advices are given free lol, also i didn't force you to take my advice

For Alex,
i said i will Never marry a girl that lost her virginity ON HER OWN WILL so being a drunk is consider that is her own will since drinking makes many people to lose their mind then losing their virginity

Waiting for some1, I will try to remain civil, but do you realize how incredibly ignorant your response sounded? Did you read anything I wrote?

What do you do with a person before you get married? You date them. You are boyfriend and girlfriend. Do you always marry the people you date? No. As I said before, dating is 'trying people out to see if they are the "one" for you or not.' Sometimes we seriously believe someone is right for us, we give them our everything and want to marry them, but things fall through. I don't think saving your virginity for marriage is a bad thing at all, but I do think that placing so much value on sex is a bad thing. To me, what you are saying is this:

You marry someone that you love so that you can have sex with them. No other reason. Therefore, love=sex.

That is incredibly shallow.

Perhaps you need the security of marriage, the title, to secure love. Many people do not. If I love my boyfriend and he loves me, we have tunnel vision, and we are a couple who could one day marry...I see no point saving sex between us for after the ceremony. There is a very important factor in any relationship, and you may have heard of it...it's called 'trust.' Some people, including yourself, depend on marriage to secure trust, which then really isn't trust. Marriage is solid (unless or until you get divorced). Unfortunately, half of the people we meet are untrustworthy, and there are heartbreaks and regrets, involving losses of virginity.

If someone does not want you because you're not a virgin, then chances are, you don't want them either. Anyone shallow enough to base their love off of sex is not worth my time. I know that for a fact.

Ciao.

Yeah I'd much rather marry a drunk than someone that lost their virginity.

I cant wait to loose my virginity - Im married, but I've decided to wait until our first child is born to have sex with my husband - thats how dedicated I am.

I mean...oh, Ha. Ha ha...Mo, you are just too funny. Please, please tone it down. I'm dying over here.

Jane... Jane Jane Jane... Umm...

dont worry

:)

Damnit. I'm just going to erase that last post...

Hahaha - knew you weren't quite up to your usual witty self Jane! :)

Anyway - its kinda amazing that its always the same people that come into a thread and change the topic and dominate it and then leave it in tatters... sorry about that... please... carry on.

Topic: Virginity - to be or not to be?

Usually witty self? Don't flatter me.

Yes, yes...When is virginity "lost?" Oral sex? Anal sex? Vaginal penetration? Ejaculation? Orgasm? Whipcream? Chocolate?

Care to join me?

I tried to read this but it mushed up together and it was like unreadable... it might be cursed... but anyway dude.. i did figure out the first few sentances what you were trying to say. so here is my opinion!

i think that viginity is just a big scam made by the media (maybe catholic churches are involved too?) and virginity is acutally just a big scam made by the media and it makes you think your virginity important but it is acually meaningless just bang your first person and have fun with it.

Last reality... you're a virgin aren't you?

Work desk, train, pool, cafe, couch, lemon, shoe, stapler, booklet... what are we talking about again?

He's a closet homosexual as well. No, I'm sorry Last Reality, I'm just an idiot. You're really cool and I bet the ladies love your tubeworm.

Groceries. Salad. Dessert. Banana Split. Cherries. Bicycle. Vagina.

Haha yeah they are all over my tubeworm!

You know....i've come to a conclusion. i'm awesome

You're a tubeworm

Tracing paper, hot coffee, mellons, dog hair, boobies, scissors, nail clippings.

Balloon animals, see i can do it too

That doesn't fit with our theme David.

Sigh
dirty girl

Excuse me? Who's a dirty girl???

I dont think you should stand too close with that thing! You might set me on fire. :)

Hey wait Mo
i wasn't talking to you,
sorry if i made things complicated i meant jane

Ok... no worries then. :)

What happens if you don't believe in marriage? But are completely in love with someone who loves you unconditionally back?
Should you not make love just because you're not married?
For people are who truly in love, you don't need a piece of paper declaring so...

Its not really a game - I just changed the rules so David couldn't participate. :) DOWN WITH MEN!! Haha - totally kidding.

And no need to apologise to me about what you said about marriage - I thought the same thing. But I wanted to do it and I cant really explain why and we're happy. So alls good in love and war (and in the case of marriage - both together).

I do agree that partners should be treated the same as married couples tho (as in if two people are together but not married - they should still have kids/adopt/buy houses - a piece of paper doesn't mean anything and quite frankly - its not like after your married you feel totally different towards each other - love is love - with or without a ring or a priest or a government's or parent's blessings - oh and with or without a Hymen too)

Wow sherry is scary hahaha

"Marriage is a total crock " if that so then you wouldn't have been born.

"which is why the thread starter felt free to post his ridiculeous and unsolicited advices only to the women on this site" because girls always complain about their virginty has been taken. i never heard a guy saying"a girl had took my virginity" so i wrote this for girls.

to tell the truth i knew i will be attacked but not like this, i didn't knew that most girls are careless about their virginity lol. that will make things easier if i wanted to have a sex with a girl before marriage lol
nah just kidding

Oooo - you're going to get a bitch slap in 5...4...3...2..1...

PS - if marriage was a crock... WHY would no one have been born? You do realise that you dont HAVE to be married to push a baby out of your *whistle* don't you?

^^ have to agree, lmao

"You do realise that you dont HAVE to be married to push a baby out of your *whistle* don't you?"

yes i do but will u be happy that u were born like this and most of the time u have no father!! he just throw his lust to your mom then left. will u be happpy to be like this?