2 months ago, updated 2 months ago
Lust is exiting and all consuming and has been proven to be a chemically driven euphoria caused by the hormones in your body to encourage you to procreate and keep the human race going. The strain on the body is too much for the body to sustain for long periods of time I think if I remember correctly it is for s maximum of two years Then it fizzles out causing you to wonder what it was you saw in the person in the first place. Unfortunately this often leaves people in unhappy relationships especially if they have gone ahead and had kids.
That's why the longer you can spend getting to know someone before jumping into bed with them the better chance of identifying whether or not you actually like the person and whether or not you are compatible before hitching up to the wrong train.
If you can get to the point where you would rather spend the rest of your life alone than stay in an unhappy unfulfilling relationship then you are already ahead. Once you realise that happiness is a state of mind that can be achieved inside your own head without anyone else. You get on with your life and can be more choosy about who you date and why.
Too many people settle for a mediocre love because either they tbink that its the best they can expect or because some love is better than none. Some accept abuse, lies, cheating or bad behavout etc because they believe him when he tells them that he loves them. Other' marry someone they don't love so they get someone to take care of them some are so selfish and self absorbed that they never experience love at all because love is giving not taking.
Once you step back and realise that you control your own destiny and that you don't need anyone and you become comfortable in your own skin is usually when love interests seem to come along.
True love is many diffeent things to different people because we are all different and we have different needs what makes one couple happy may not make another happy but you just know when it's right.
For me -When you do find true love it is based on mutual attraction, honesty, respect; communication and compromise. You love each other and it's at a heart mind body and soul level. You take care of and nurture each other and bring out the best instead of the worst . You are strong together and put each other's needs before your own. You feel their happiness and their pain and you always make time to think of ways to make the other happy.
You never let go of the romance. You still hold hands kiss each other tell each other how much you love each other and still find each other attractive no matter how old and wrinkly you get.
You cannot imagine life without each other and passion might have it's seasons but always comes back no matter how old you get. You would never hurt each other because in doing so you would be hurting yourself more. The sound of thier voice is like music to your ears. You are each other's world and it isn't like any other love you have ever had before. You are each other's best friend, lover, hero confidante and soul mate. When you find that depth of love you find happiness in the smallest things and it makes you realise that even the darkest moments are not so dark with them by your side