Mary Anne, I'm going out on a limb and perhaps thinking this is about your dad? If I am wrong, I do apologize. He's been the subject of a lot of pain for you and I'm so sorry you two have this relationship. It makes for a very difficult childhood and also into adulthood. Especially as adults you finally can reach a friend stage with your folks. My eldest daughter has cut ties with her father. She couldn't deal with his one sided relationship. She didnt want to subject her own children to it either. I know deep down she still loves him but for her own sanity she chooses this. I'm not suggesting you do anything that you aren't comfortable with. Relationships are difficult enough sometimes. Stay strong and we are here for you-
Brenda, you are correct. Thank you for sharing... over the years I've had more time and opportunity to reflect, have a better perception on what is genuine or what will or won't change. I think I've found as long as I am firm with certain things, and have clear boundaries, I can keep that respectable distance so I don't get hurt, but I can still care and share some things. I think it helps I have an understanding of who I am, therefore I know where he draws the line or the point where I refrain from opening up if he can't respect all of me.