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I agree i think talkin to him wil be the best. That way you can find out what the meaning was behind what he said. Although what he said was really interesting....i think he just didnt know how to react. I hope this helped.
-kayla-

That is shocking. But yes you should talk to him about it, and explain what i made you feel like and stuff. well done for opening up to him though its a big thing to do

hahahaha thts right,
Well u kno have a serious talk,
like u said, a Serious Question with a serious answer, well have a SERIOUS talk with him, if he cant handle it, then he cant handle you..

I think that your boyfriend, and you're not gonna like this, thinks that 'some' women who get raped secretly fantasize about it. Thus, when it happens, they also secretly enjoy it.

This is just another glaring example of how many men have a fundemental misunderstanding of women.

Having said that, I don't think he means any harm by it, I guess he's just read too many 'media' publications. They f*ck us all up.

Quick question MT, how old is your boyfriend?

Aken Sol

Why an idiot? If he was young and impressionable, then yeah, i guess you could excuse him for his mistake. But... 32?!?!? Ugh

Whatever. The majority of men and their neantherdal-like thinking makes me look bad. Way to improve the male stereotypes....

Aken Sol

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So he lied about his age too huh? That's a good sign -_-;;

Ugh, you seem to be an intelligent woman so i'll say this once: you could better.

Aken Sol

If You Love Him...You Should Love Him Enough To Overlook His Faults (Which Is Obviously His Words)....Love Will Survive This...If Its True Love xoxo-Nikki-xoxo

Wow girl that's crazy...okay 32!! I guess i'm not the right person to say something about that-cuz i'd be a hypocrite...lol...but watch out-older guys are friggin' nuts!! and dangerous...lol...but i totally understand if you love him! Okay well i'm glad you got that one figured out, i was stumped...that's crazy!

xoxo-Sierra Rae

Hehe, even though he's alot older then you (and i do mean ALOT), you're old enough to make your own decisions. But honestly, you love him because he loves you and doesn't hit you?? No man should beat thier loved ones, and the ones that do are beneath scum. You should definitely set higher standards for yourself.

Aken Sol

I think you have to understand that men have no real concept of what the rape of a woman entails.

His question is rather legitimate if you ask me. He cares enough to want to know and is obviously patient enough to listen. Despite his age he might not be so worldy with the mechanics of life, so I'd calm down, have a coke and a smile then talk to him rationally.

I have one question:

If you never told anyone in person about being raped before how come you mention it so casually and easily here? Is it the sense of anonymity perhaps?

I advise you to be careful....my best friend fell in love with a 24 year old, or so she thought....i Mean..I even talked to him, he was soo sweet, and I, too, overlooked the huge age gap.....

But later..it comes to find out that her mom did a search on this guy....He is certainly NOT a 24 year old man, he is 29, almost 30, and he's a sex offender who was sent to jail for kidnapping a girl and bringing her to Penn.

Needless to say, this came as such a shock to us, but because i am her friend, I was there for her, and we got through it together..and this was just a few days ago...

When you know an older man is lying about his age, he's obviously capable of more lies. And your bf...he apparently has a huge age difference between what he told you he was, and what he truly is....I say leave him...

For a 32 year old man, that is awfully insensitive...I mean....at that age, you should really care about the young population, and, not that I know this for a fact, but, doesn't the perspective change on how you see those young girls?? You look at them and think, "if they were my daughter, I wouldn't have let them out of the house." or things like that....

He's old enough to be my dad, but thank god he isn't cuz I would be a wild, wild child...

Sorry for any inconvience.

~Sierra

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Well that's probably better...I just thought I'd warn you....

I think you're smart enough to deal with him in whatever way you find suitable. :-D

Thanks Mystic, it explains a lot and probably goes for a most people on this site.