Shoot me your best advice

Most of you read the poem Jane shared with us, let's see what you have learned ! As we've all made mistakes, we've all regretted something, and we've all had hard times, and perhaps most of us moved on after facing big obstacles in their life!

Share with us a post that includes an advice/moral that could perhaps help prevent others from doing a mistake you've done...something that you've learned?

I'll start :

Life ain't always beautiful, but that's the best part about it, it helps you appreciate the meaning of happiness, and be grateful for the moments of peace you'd find.

The best things you get, are the things you've sweated to reach!
Being honest will save your reputation, selfrespect, and will definitely save a place for you in many peoples hearts!

Tragedy, is not the key to someones heart, never take advantage of your tragedies and sadness to find sympathy...it's not how things work!

Education, if not the best you can do in your life, it's the most important part of living, and when I speak of education I do not mean school, not all people can afford that, but we are all capable of educating ourselves! It widens your prospects, your ability to communicate, and definitely helps you take everything easier, and from different corners, which in conclusion helps you tolerate and understand others different views/decisions/beliefs.. etc..

sometimes we grow up without a mother/father/ or without both parents, but no one should ever forget what other blessings they've got. sometimes life brings your way some people who might be caring more than those you'd share blood with (so have faith in people, as much as possible)

Never dream big, unless you have the heart to fight for your wishes..
to dream big, you must work hard to achieve it, nothing comes with time, it's just a lie, everything you want you should at least make a move toward it. Never rely on luck ...

hold your temper, never gossip, never cheat, not only will this help you learn how to control yourself, and have some self-discipline, but it will offer you a peaceful life, a lighter heart and it's very useful for long nights sleeping XD :P

when you are angry, think of who's losing the most! (you!)

True Love, is way beyond metaphors, and much more deeper than poetry. and it can never work out if you don't have..

-respect for your partner
-trust in them
-generosity..

>>oh yes, and if you don't learn how to admit your mistakes, and how to apologize, you will never ever grow up

NEVER THROW FOOD< some people are starving out there -_- send me your leftovers :)

oh yes, another thing, when you want to call someone a "friend" you should really know what you're talking about !

I've learned you can cut a branch down, but you can't put it back.
I've learned there's a tool for everything. You just have to look harder.
I've learned that being grumpy isn't an excuse to be short-tempered.
I've learned that hope can be paralyzing. It's safer to expect the worst.
I've learned we've all been through a lot, and to assume you've been through more than someone else will keep you from discovering the depth of that person.
I've learned that not everyone will like you, no matter how hard you try, or how much you like them.
I've learned that it's okay to fall apart, as long as it doesn't last forever. Build yourself back up stronger than you were before.
I've learned that eating junk food only feels good when you're eating it.
I've learned that, every now and then, it's good to take the blame for someone else.

I've learned that sometimes I log into the mod account and I forget to log out before posting on the main forums.

Jane

Haha lol Jane, and hence you've learned that we all forget..sometimes :P

I love four of your lessons..the most :

I've learned that being grumpy isn't an excuse to be short-tempered.
I've learned that hope can be paralyzing. It's safer to expect the worst.
I've learned we've all been through a lot, and to assume you've been through more than someone else will keep you from discovering the depth of that person.
I've learned that not everyone will like you, no matter how hard you try, or how much you like them.

I have learned you can't make someone love you. All you can do is stalk them and hope they finally give in

I have learned some my friends are so attractive they have beat the opposite sex off with a stick, especially the ones that spray them with pepper spray

It is better to have loved and lost than to live with a psycho the rest of your life.

Just kidding

Seriously, laughter is good for the soul, and I have learned it is best, most of the time, for me not to take my self too seriously.

I have learned that feelings are not always good nor are they always evil. It is what we do with feelings that is most important

As my fortune cookie said " It is nice to be important , but more important to be nice"

Life always offers a lesson

I have learn that things happen for a reason, it may be obvious or not so clear at the beginning but eventually the answer to why things happen the way it happened appears before our eyes.

I have learn that is better to ask and be known as an ignorant than to stay with the question and remain a thick headed.

I have learn that we can learn a small lesson from even the smallest things we encounter in life.

I have learn that life is tougher for some people than for others but it's up to them and us to find a way to live it peacefully and happily.

I have learn to not take everything at heart, sometimes is fine to find humorous things out of our embarrassing moments because that makes our life easier.

I have learn to not feel worthless because even if we think we are not worth there is someone out there that thinks the exact opposite.

I have learn that is better to not pretend that one is happy because pretending is much much
painful than the way we actually feel.

I have learn that the worst that can happen is to feel lonely when one is surrounded by people than to feel happy when there is no one else.

I have learn that a smile can bright someone else's day but over smiling can cause a damage to someones brain. ( creepy)

I have learn that being stubborn can be a great skill but it can also be a bad defect.

I have learn that love is the toughest feeling to understand but also the greatest.

I have learn that honesty, respect and communication are an important key in any type of relationship.

And I have learn that a smile that comes from someones eyes and not from ones lips is a true one.

I have learnt that humbleness is a great quality in a human being.

I have learnt that honesty is the best policy in a relationship.

I have learnt that love can be taught.

I have learnt that you can't give what you don't have.

I have learnt that people are afraid of those who aren't afraid of anything.

I have learnt that freedom is something fantastic.

I have learnt that true friendship is forever.

I have learnt that what doesn't kill me, makes me stronger.

I have learned (well... tried to learn) that it's always worth re-evaluating yourself and your opinions. Sometimes admitting when you are wrong (or even that there is that possibility!) can open you up to tons of growth and learning that you wouldn't get otherwise.

I've learned that you can't control everything and you can't think too much about the things that you can't control.

I've learned that the human mind is a terrifyingly powerful thing.

I've learned that it is good to maintain relationships, but that you can't let your sense of self fall wayside in the process.

That if you want something you must take it!

That the small things really are the best things sometimes.

That no matter how many bad things are out there, life and the world are very beautiful. Every experience is beautiful in some way shape or form. Sometimes you just have to dig a little.

I've learned:

Small favors should always be appreciated.
Saying thank you doesn't go unnoticed.
A whole bunch of little stressors lead to a whole lot of stress. Don't underestimate the power of 'things' that bother you.
Having a job that makes a positive contribution to the world is a job worth having.
When things are great, and when things are terrible... They won't stay that way.
People are alive and changing. You are not today who you were yesterday, and tomorrow you will not be who you are today. Don't approach people with preconceived notions if you want to keep learning about them.
The world is a lot smaller than you think and you do have an impact.
An interesting lie is more readily believed and remembered than a dull truth.
People can and sometimes do change for the better, but not because you've asked them to.

Don't under-estimate
the importance
of good ingredients:
what goes into the cooking,
goes into the cook.

Life, like cooking, is a delicate dance partnering trust and patience; you must trust that the right result will come if you follow the recipe, and you must practice the patience needed to allow these results to develop.

I've learned that not being a mod really shows you who your true friends are, and the ones who no longer give you the time of day are really shocking.

I've learned its easier to bite your tongue than say the truth sometimes.

I've learned there will always be those people who are just dumb, no matter what, and I can't fix it.

I've learned Bob Harper is a monster, but his workouts are amazing.

I've learned that sometimes bigger is better in a lot of ways.

I've learned to let go of my baggage, because I don't HAVE to carry it around with me anymore.

^^
About your first lesson:
You could fill in all kinds of qualities there, Britt. You often don't know people's real motives for being your "friend"until you lose that certain something that kept them interested in you.

I have learned many things, but the one aspect that truly stands out is that the louder the mouth is, the smaller the person who owns it usually is( as in: worthless). The humblest of people usually are the most valuable, both as a person, but also to our society as a whole.

Oh yes Ingrid I do agree! I have experienced that first hand many times.

I've learned that some mothers you just can't love,for they don't want you to love them

I've learned that I have accepted the life that was thrown my way,but it does not mean I will ever stop trying to improve it..

I've learned that the best conversations are those you don't get the chance to finish

I've learned that life is too short for grudges and that envy eats nothing but your own soul

I've learned that they are certain feelings you can't get rid of... but you must put them in the back of your mind and keep moving...

and most importantly I've learned that its important
to accept the days as they come..that today may be bad,and tomorrow and the day after tomorrow too
but sooner or later a little light will show...because no pain is forever...

oh,I've also learned that a woman must have Integrity..its important to stand behind your words..
because other wise no one will take you seriously.

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how i toootttaaaallly agree! But that's how people are! Thank God my relation with britt stayed stable, many thought i used to nominate her last 3 poems at once cause she was a mod, but after she demoted her self i still have done that mannny times and no body complained about it anymore..it was her charming poetry and kind friendly sideee not her mod ship :p XD

britshi boo doesnt need fake ppl around i have learned that it's better to to know the truth even if it hurts..always!

:)

I know it must have hurt when you found out about how some people can be, but on the other hand it allows you to spend more time (online) with those who truly care:)

Ingrid! Waves* beeen a long while!!

I have learnt that,

Words once projected, cannot be recollected.

That time here, only moves in one direction.

Certain mistakes are irreversible.

Aging, is no assurance for maturity.

Ones future will soon be his past, there are no exceptions.

Nature and its ways are ordained, it functions unbiased though it may seem to run absurd.

One, cannot take more than his palms can contain.

Majority, doesn't always mean right.

And that if the good days dont prevail, then even the bad ones wont.

I don't want to create another thread, but I need "advice," and quickly!

Does the use of semi-colons in this sentence make sense?:

I longed for adventure; reckless abandon; the destruction of social barriers, but without financial support or sufficient emotional strength, my hopes were unattainable.

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Do the semi-colons in this sentence qualify as substitutions for super-commas as per the semi-colon rule listed in The Oatmeal?
http://theoatmeal.com/comics/semicolon

Should they be commas instead with an 'and' before 'the destruction'!?

Hey Nana! * waves back.

I have learned that you cannot fool a child or an animal. Both seem to have a better judgement of character than most adults.

An answer to Jane's query above^

I longed for adventure; reckless abandon; the destruction of social barriers, but without financial support or sufficient emotional strength, my hopes were unattainable.

It does look a little complicated the way it was presented above, and not well connected, though it does seems to follow the semi-colon rule listed in The Oatmeal?

How about rephrasing without any semicolon, just 2 commas:

I longed for reckless abandon and destruction of social barriers in my adventure, but without financial support or sufficient emotional strength, my hopes were unattainable.

Does the rephrasing change the intended meaning behind this complex sentence?

Lonely, you edited the sentence so that it reads beautifully. Alas, I didn't see this post in time and already submitted the sentence differently than either of our versions in this thread.

Thank you though! It's the thought that counts.

It is in reference to Jane's (Silvershoes) query.

A lonely soul's reconstruction.

I longed for reckless abandon and destruction of social barriers in my adventure, but without financial support or sufficient emotional strength, my hopes were unattainable.

Her query

I longed for adventure; reckless abandon; the destruction of social barriers, but without financial support or sufficient emotional strength, my hopes were unattainable.

My input

I longed for adventure - is correct

But ": reckless abandon" just by iteself makes no sense even if it portrayed as in independent clause.

;The destruction of social barriers - This line will be justified if it is followed be a dependent clause, in my opinion.

but without financial support or sufficient emotional strength, my hopes were unattainable.

^ this particular part may not need comma at all

but without financial support or sufficient emotional strength my hopes were unattainable.

^ Removing the comma will still do the job.

Adding a semi-colon can be achieved if one might wish for it.

Ex -

I longed for adventure, reckless abandon and the destruction of social barriers; without financial support or sufficient emotional strength my hopes were unattainable.

Which splits the entire section into two independent clauses.

1. I longed for adventure, reckless abandon and the destruction of social barriers.

2. Without financial support or sufficient emotional strength my hopes were unattainable.

Or

2 Without financial support or sufficient emotional strength, my hopes were unattainable.

Which justifies the use of Semi-colon.

Correct me if I am wrong.

I have learnt that:

It is natural to be angry, hate or to feel resentment, but it is noble to rise above them.

Being judgemental clouds our vision, being tolerant keeps it clear.

If you judge people you have no time to love them. ~Mother Teresa

Forgiveness is the highest form of virtue of the human kind. Let go of your anger, and you will find love will suddenly bloom.

Let past be past, safely buried in the back of our mind, for it only haunts our present, when out of the crypts.
If no hurt was caused or implied, give friendship a second chance, for the soul is purified when forgiving from the heart.

Here's one for the poets:

"Take no revenge that you have not pondered beneath a starry sky, or on a canyon overlook, or to the lapping of waves and the mewing of a distant gull."
-Robert Brault

So true. Find your peace of mind, settle into the beauty of the world, then tell me you are unwilling to forgive someone who has angered you.

It is necessary to forgive in order to grow, but sometimes it's okay to forgive and also avoid future contact.

Ah okay, now I got that... then, I learned:

- Life is a rainbow

- Life is cotton candy

- Life is a white page

- Life is great

- People are amazing

I have learned..

That when you're looking for a yummy snack and on a diet, hummus can be your new best friend.

That you don't have to be the best writer to know when something is or isn't good reading.

That people are always going to irritate you, frustrate you, let you down... but there are also always going to be people who make you smile, brighten your day, and bend over backwards to be there for you.

That it's easier to focus on 1 negative even with 100 positives in your life - but not more fun.

Thank you, Britt.

I especially like the last one.

"That it's easier to focus on 1 negative even with 100 positives in your life - but not more fun."

Can I sum up what I tried to make myself believe I should learn, through a song?
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Lynyrd Skynyrd - Simple Man

Mama told me when I was young
"Come sit beside me, my only son
And listen closely to what I say
And if you do this it will help you some sunny day"

"Oh, take your time, don't live too fast
Troubles will come and they will pass
You'll find a woman and you'll find love
And don't forget, son, there is someone up above"

"And be a simple kind of man
Oh, be something you love and understand
Baby be a simple kind of man
Oh, won't you do this for me, son, if you can"

"Forget your lust for the rich man's gold
All that you need is in your soul
And you can do this, oh baby, if you try
All that I want for you, my son, is to be satisfied"

"And be a simple kind of man
Oh, be something you love and understand
Baby be a simple kind of man
Oh, won't you do this for me, son, if you can"

Oh yes, I will

"Boy, don't you worry, you'll find yourself
Follow your heart and nothing else
And you can do this, oh baby, if you try
All that I want for you, my son, is to be satisfied"

"And be a simple kind of man
Oh, be something you love and understand
Baby be a simple kind of man
Oh, won't you do this for me, son, if you can"

Baby, be a simple, really simple man
Oh, be something you love and understand

-- http://www.lyrics007.com/Lynyrd%20Skynyrd%20Lyrics/Simple%20Man%20Lyrics.html

"That when you're looking for a yummy snack and on a diet, hummus can be your new best friend"

I have learned that after your daughter leaves her humus in your ice box for 18 months, it's ok to throw it out.

EWWWWWWW

How can I forget, also?
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(Tomorrow, by Annie)

The sun'll come out
Tomorrow
Bet your bottom dollar
That tomorrow
There'll be sun!

Just thinkin' about
Tomorrow
Clears away the cobwebs,
And the sorrow
'Til there's none!

When I'm stuck with a day
That's gray,
And lonely,
I just stick out my chin
And Grin,
And Say,
Oh!

The sun'll come out
tomorrow
So ya gotta hang on
'Til tomorrow
Come what may

Tomorrow! Tomorrow!
I love ya Tomorrow!
You're always
A day
Away!

--- http://www.google.com.lb/url?sa=t&rct=j&q=Tomorrow+lyrics&source=web&cd=3&ved=0CDAQFjAC&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.stlyrics.com%2Flyrics%2Fbestofbroadway-americanmusical%2Ftomorrow.htm&ei=PEjVTsrwDMHo-gaS-NSiDw&usg=AFQjCNEcIgWY6XAv0j8oauYcLkTiM19w_A&cad=rja

Haha, not sure this thread is meant for song lyrics to be posted. Just make sure you include the artist and song name so nobody thinks the works are your own.

"Simple Man" is one of my favorite songs ever (karaoke time!). It makes me cry every time I hear it. I told my dad that if I have a son someday, it's going to be our song.

Done :)

I love the song, so inspiring!
Ah haha, I'm sure your unborn child will like it!! :)

I'm not into the original song much, but I really really like the cover sung by Lee Dewyze, American Idol Season 9.

Sorry, links as well. We're currently refurbishing this rule so that every time someone posts text that is not their own, they must include a link. Just a general precaution, not targeting anyone.
Thanks!

I've learned that flash anger causes us to say things we don't mean and have to feel guilty about later. Better to bite your tongue.

In psychology, we learn that when people regularly vent and let their anger come to a boil, it actually makes it more difficult to control their anger in the future. It's better to try to nip it in the bud from the start.
That doesn't mean hold onto your anger and let it consume you. Try to snuff it out instead.

^ how's that possible? (the last line :p?)

Ive learned that I really havent learned that much at all

I am not sure what Lady Gaga's real name is, but I would like to shoot some advice the those who cannot be a simple kind of man due to the way they were born

"Born This Way"

[Intro:]
It doesn't matter if you love him, or capital H-I-M
Just put your paws up
'cause you were born this way, baby

[Verse:]
My mama told me when I was young
We are all born superstars
She rolled my hair and put my lipstick on
In the glass of her boudoir

"There's nothing wrong with loving who you are"
She said, "'Cause he made you perfect, babe"
"So hold your head up girl and you'll go far,
Listen to me when I say"

[Chorus:]
I'm beautiful in my way
'Cause God makes no mistakes
I'm on the right track, baby
I was born this way
Don't hide yourself in regret
Just love yourself and you're set
I'm on the right track, baby
I was born this way

Lady Gaga

www.azlyrics.com/lyrics/ladygaga/bornthisway.html

^ Great one Michael.

If it was sung by someone else, it would've been so much better.

'cz all the music and the noise and...ahh.. irritating music :S