Tribute to the nice guys!!!

This is a tribute to the nice guys. The nice guys that finish last, that never become more than friends, that endure hours of whining and b*tching about what assholes guys are, while disproving the very point. This is dedicated to those guys who always provide a shoulder to lean on but restrain themselves to tentative hugs, those guys who hold open doors and give reassuring pats on the back and sit patiently outside the changing room at department stores.

This is in honor of the guys that obligingly reiterate how cute/beautiful/smart/funny/sexy their female friends are at the appropriate moment, because they know most girls need that litany of support. This is in honor of the guys with open minds, with laid-back attitudes, with honest concern. This is in honor of the guys who respect a girls every facet, from her privacy to her theology to her clothing style.

This is for the guys who escort their drunk, bewildered female friends back from parties and never take advantage once theyre at her door, for the guys who accompany girls to bars as buffers against the rest of the creepy male population, for the guys who know a girl is fishing for compliments but give them out anyway, for the guys who always play by the rules in a game where the rules favor cheaters, for the guys who are accredited as boyfriend material but somehow dont end up being boyfriends, for all the nice guys who are overlooked, underestimated, and unappreciated, for all the nice guys who are manipulated, misled, and unjustly abandoned, this is for you.

This is for that time she left 40 urgent messages on your cell phone, and when you called her back, she spent three hours painstakingly dissecting two sentences her boyfriend said to her over dinner. And even though you thought her boyfriend was a chump and a jerk, you assured her that it was all ok and she shouldnt worry about it. This is for that time she interrupted the best killing spree youd ever orchestrated in GTA3 to rant about a rumor that romantically linked her and the guy she thinks is the most repulsive person in the world. And even though you thought it was immature and you had nothing against the guy, you paused the game for two hours and helped her concoct a counter-rumor to spread around the floor. This is also for that time she didnt have a date, so after numerous vows that there was nothing serious between the two of you, she dragged you to a party where you knew nobody, the beer was awful, and she flirted shamelessly with you, justifying each fit of reckless teasing by announcing to everyone: oh, but were just friends! And even though you were invited purely as a symbolic warm body for her ego, you went anyways. Because youre nice like that.

The nice guys dont often get credit where credit is due. And perhaps more disturbing, the nice guys dont seem to get laid as often as they should. And I wish I could logically explain this trend, but I cant. From what I have observed on campus and what I have learned from talking to friends at other schools and in the workplace, the only conclusion I can form is that many girls are just illogical, manipulative b*tches. Many of them claim they just want to date a nice guy, but when presented with such a specimen, they say irrational, confusing things such as oh, hes too nice to date or he would be a good boyfriend but hes not for me or he already puts up with so much from me, I couldnt possibly ask him out! or the most frustrating of all: no, it would ruin our friendship. Yet, they continue to lament the lack of datable men in the world, and they expect their too-nice-to-date male friends to sympathize and apologize for the men that are jerks. Sorry, guys, girls like that are beyond my ability to fathom. I cant figure out why the connection breaks down between what they say (I want a nice guy!) and what they do (Im going to sleep with this complete ass now!). But one thing I can do, is say that the nice-guy-finishes-last phenomenon doesnt last forever. There are definitely many girls who grow out of that train of thought and realize they should be dating the nice guys, not taking them for granted. The tricky part is finding those girls, and even trickier, finding the ones that are single.

So, until those girls are found, I propose a toast to all the nice guys. You know who you are, and I know youre sick of hearing yourself described as ubiquitously nice. But the truth of the matter is, the world needs your patience in the department store, your holding open of doors, your party escorting services, your propensity to be a sucker for a pretty smile. For all the crazy, inane, absurd things you tolerate, for all the situations where you are the faceless, nameless hero, my accolades, my acknowledgement, and my gratitude go out to you. You do have credibility in this society, and your well deserved vindication is coming.

Thats nice!! Its about time someone did that!! Wait, I'm a girl and I'm saying that?? haha.. But yeah, At least someone did this!!

~Shae

"Few if any girls are completely into the fairy tale idealistic soppy-romantic-film nonsensical pish."

I completly agree with that! I'm deffinetly one of those girls who doesn't want a 'Fairy tale' ending. That's no fun, why would I want a guy who seems amazing and perfect when I'm far from it? How fun is that? I mean, I want someone who I could tease for their flaws (all in good fun of course) and someone who would do it back. Not an incredibly nice guy who would always compliment me and say "You're perfect that way you are". No thanks, too boring for me =).

That's kind of a neat tribute.

I found my nice guy. And to think I always thought they weren't really out there..

I guess your tribute wouldn't really apply to him anymore, because I give him all the credit in the world, I know how great he is. But still. It made me think of him.

Eventually, the nice guys that always finished last will find the nice girl who finally opened her eyes and realized that not every guy on the planet is going to break her heart.

Yes! It's about time :)
What would we do without our male friends to lean on?
God bless you all!
Wonderful tribute and well deserved.

^^^
I believe she said it all.

A wonderful idea.
Where would woman be without you guys to lean on?
And where would -I- be without my best friend, who is a guy, to go to at all times and call at any moment?
Where would I be if I didn't understand things, because my best friend never helped me understand?
Or taught me things?
I love my best friend, and he's a guy and it's time he [and the rest -like Joe] got recognized. Amen!
I love you all for what great people you are. There aren't many left out there.

xTheEcstasyOfSuicidex

wow thats one of the greatest tributes I've ever heard! So very sweet and all the nice guys in the world surely deserve it.

And to all you people who disagree, you must have some romanticism hidden somewhere, don't criticise them...

Beautiful, I almost feel mean for being a girl.

XxX

where are those guys? i can't see them near me. could any one guide me please

We are all around you, which is why you cannot find us, we are the ones you overlook simply becuase we do not ask for anything in return.were the ones who open the door to let the other guys pick up your stuff before we get chance to. we are all around. you have learned that we are simply the people who help. We are more common than thought, though we are also more lonely.We are the perfect guys, who everyone desires, but no one wants

This tribute made me feel are warm and soft inside. But seriously, it did. Thanks for posting this. I'm dating one of those diamond in the ruff, nice guys. I'd advise all of you silly girls to do the same. I think many girls need the feeling that they are dating someone who doesn't deserve them, which is partially why the nice guy is less desireable. But be brave girls: date the nice guy.

Wow!!! So true so true... I'm thankful that there are nice guys in the world who would prove to some girls that all guys aren't jerks.... I'm glad that some of those nice guys are my friends... They are always there to be a a shoulder to cry on, always lending a helping hand, and always there to beat a person up if someone made you cry (well my guy friends are like that) they make me feel safe and special.... And I'm glad... So it's about time that someone said it... Because it's all true...

Why aren't you dating one of them? ^^

It is very true that there are those nice guys out there, and most girls just go for the jerks instead, but then again there are those girls who are looking for the nice guy, but only come across complete dick heads. This is a really good tribute. Everyone kind hearted guy out there deserves it.

I'm not dating one of them because they're takin right now... And I'm happy for them :) but I do like one of them... So for now I'm just being single and lovin it...

Yeah` ! Nice guys are always overlooked . 95% of my friends are guys, and there are a lottaaaa` these kind of guys in the group . It`s weiird how us girls never really see the 'nice guy' that we`ve been waitin` fer standing right in front of us . One of my closer buds, when I ask about his troubles he`s not used to girls really LiSTENiNG to what he has to say . Hearing about his problems and what he goes through for the girl he likes -- it totally jerks my heart and brings out tears how she`s so oblivious to him cuhs` he`s like the epitome of the 'perfect guy' and has basically everything a lot of his home girls ask for in a guy .

So, y`all GiRLS GOTTAAA` APPRECiATE THEM ! Take a look in fronta` yu and notice`em . The nice guys that are always there for yu and everything that was seyd in that tribute . Cuhs` they needa be appreciated(=

..__MiNDYY

where in the world are these guys?? they're definitly not in brooks alberta... damn that sux... i wish i had one of those guys... but they're sooo hard to find... do they just hide in a cave and come when the world of women is in grave danger???

I am proud to be one of those guys... on accident, I guess. My girlfriend won't stop saying that I "amaze" her.
But what some people consider to make a nice guy I expect of myself. I will never cheat on a girl (never have, either), never expect anything of my significant other, never let "me" get in the way of "us".
I just have to remember that we are all human beings, each of us trying to make what best life we can for ourselves. Remember that, and everyone takes on a new light. They are no longer people just in your life, but people that have their own lives.
Everyone has to live their life not only for themselves, but more for the people that they love.

Time to flaunt ego's huh?

I think that was a great tribute to nice guys.

its true but i dnt take advantage of my guy friends and if i ask them to do summin its make a creep stop talkin to me and thts only one guy i have numerous g uy friends and i treat them like well i would say chick friends but thts not true anyway i dnt take advantage of themand wut about the guys who use their chick friends?

Wow. thank you!

~the reason girls love nice guys better than jerks, but they always somehow end up dating jerks:

-the jerks always seem a little bit cuter~

^_^ the reason who girls never fall for the nice guys:

- It took a year to make this friendship, why ruin it?
-It's too complicated for words

I agree with the author, 2 faced girls like that confuse me, (and make me sick), and I'm a girl!!! I mean, COME ON!!!!!!! Why would you settle for less? Sure, nice guys may not be the cutest, (I'm not saying their not cute, because a few of them are!!) but well if that's all your concerned about then they deserve better. It doesn't matter what they look like, if they are nice and honest and treat you right, then they are the right person for you. Sure you may date a few jerks, and you may have to wait awhile for that "nice guy", but in the end, it'll all be worth it.

wow this was amazing and totally true! the thing is though, sometimes its easier to have those people as just friends so you know that they will always be there for you rather than changing your relationship and having it all break down.

and to the nice guys out there, when girls say "theyre just a friend and nothing else could happen", we often follow that with the thought of "or could there be?" ...so it is taken into consideration =)

I can see from both sides of it.

Yes, they are taken advantage of and maybe we all should give them a chance

But yes, they are your best friend. A few years ago I hadda best friend that was a boy, we got along real well, somebody asked if we were going out..and things got awekward. I dont even really talk to him any more. We shouldn't take advantage of them, but its nice to have somebody you can always run to and cry on their shoulder. Boys are different from girls (duh) in a way thats just.. makes you wanna know them. Sometimes you just need a boys outlook on things. They think differently, they ARE different. I love my nice guys, in that best friend kind of way. They look out for me.

I like this though. Some girls really do take advantage... I'm prolly one of them though =P
Oh well, this is still real nice and I most of the way agree.

A girls guy friend is there for her no matter wut well thts half true but anyway my guy friends if i tell em someone is leaving me dirty messags he will tell them to eff off and to leave me alone and you dnt find alot of guy friends like tht

"...and wut about the guys who use their chick friends?"

^^ I Never said there aren't guys who use their girl friends. This tribute can really be looked at either way, I was just directing towards the guys that is all.

aww thats cute... i like it alot =]]

I propose we create a memorial day for all of those 'nice guys' who never got any. They deserve it. lol

an interesting post for the nice guys. Love it.

Now, except the fact that I am a girl, I am just like one of those boys. If that makes any sense...

I'm just not that whipped :P

Here's to my very best friend, Jason!!!!! The times he's been there when no one else has, even this morning when things were very bad. Just a phone call later, I felt someone put their arms around me. He has done so many of the things you described - especially the long hours of not only listening, but remembering the late night ramblings of an emotionally disturbed friend. I love him, and for his friendship I am extremely grateful.

What about a Tribute to the nice girls???

^^^This tribute can really be looked at either way, I was just directing towards the guys that is all.

If you all want a tribute to the nice girls, then I will be happy to write one.

Ok, so here it is! I found it after searching through 16 pages of topics, lol. Ok, since you guys brought up the idea that guys aren't appreciated, and some aren't, I thought of this, and was like, ok, this fits in perfectly since the person brought up another post saying thank you to nice guys, so to all nice guys...

Thank you, somewhere, you are appreciated, even if sometimes it doesn't seem like it

Much Love,
Danielle

wow i feel all good now lol.. maybe me holdin the door for girls and bein nice towards all girls will pay off soon enough.. GREAT POST

wow..good post from a girl..*raising a toast to the good guys!!*

Great work Joe =)
I'll adment that I don't see the wonderful "nice guy" thats standing right in front of me most of the time and I know that I also tend to take advantage of the ones I know at times. I want to say sorry to all the "nice guys" that I've done that to or that I've hurt and say that I DO love you and appreciate you, I just can't seem to tell you. Thank you for always being there and never giving up on us stupid girls! =)

wow. that was great. thank you for that. it makes me feel like my work is actually worth while. thank you.

aw this one is good too...i don't want the whole fairy tale ending...i just want someone to care for me. regardless of label or looks or anything. i dont see many of these guys though...just one...but eh..w/e. and i really am looking for a nice guy...not just some ass so that i can say that im not single....but lol w/e.thanks for posting the 2 tributes

Hey Joe, I think this is my favorite of your posts yet, haha. A good guy needs no tribute, but thank you for the thought.

I have the epitome of a nice guy, now, at least. But it took me five years and many assholes to realize it ...

Girls, give that guy a chance, (you know, the one that annoys you with how much he cares or says the corny cute things that make you feel kinda, sort of uncomfortable) - it's probably worth it, and he'll probably treat you better than you could have imagined ... and if you'd just give in, you might find yourself happier than you've ever been ... I know it happened for me.